my boyfriends best friends and his girlfriend have been having trouble lately and she's been confiding in us about their problems.however recently she has started 2 call to our house when she knows im in work.my boyfriend was very uncomfortable with this so he told me what she was doing.she hasnt come on to him or anything she just comes around to moan about her fella. its probably harmless enough on her part but i dont know if i trust her.she called around drunk at 2.30am a few nights ago and my bloke gave her a coffee and drove her home and she asked him not to tell her bloke where she was,i know shes having problems but i think that was out of order. should i have words with her?
2007-03-20 10:56:17 · 15 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Since your boyfriend's bestfriend girlfriend knows they are bestfriends and she is having problems with her boyfriend, what i think she is trying to do is make him jealous over your boyfriend and make a big mess out of ur relationship because hers sucks. What can ur boyfriend really do to help the relationship? He can't really do anything, so her talking and moaning and complaining isn't helping her situation. SHE NEEDS TO TALK ABOUT THIS STUFF TO HER BOYFRIEND, she is dating him not ur boyfriend.
I think you should have some words with her you are not being "silly". She needs to know she is crossing a fine line. Or just tell her nicely that you think she should talk things over with her boyfriend, there is nothing your boyfriend can do being best friends OR not....to change her relationship. She really needs to talk to hers.
2007-03-20 11:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she wants your man. why is she confiding in both of you, if your bf mate thought it was a big issue, wouldn't he confide in your bf himself? She is properly jealous that you have a better relationship then her. I would have serious words with her. On the good side tho at least you know your bf loves you enough to be uncomfortable with her and told you what she was doing. Good luck hope everything works out for.
2007-03-20 11:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just see how it goes ! your boyfriend is a descent and honest young man who is being nice to this girl even though he feels a bit uncomfortable ! he has been honest with you from the start so i think you should just let it go ! if she makes a move on him thats when you should have word ! i wish i had have been as mature as you when me and my partner were young the amount of fights and arguments i got into over something innocent was unreal !!
2007-03-20 11:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by maddie xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont trust her - she definitely after some affection. Poor her me thinks but its not your problem nor your boyfriends. She sounds like she after a one nighter. Be warned.... Or maybe im just cynical and she has no other friends - cos normally when I'm feeling pissed off with bf i go to my own friends. So if she doesn't have any then I'm not sure what you do. I wouldn't be happy about it tho...I'm there with ya!!
2007-03-20 12:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by nitenurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set her straight. She has no business blabbing about her personal affairs in the first place. The only ones who should be involved are her and her boyfriend. They need to work it out themselves or part company. She should leave you and your BF out of it. Tell her in no uncertain terms not to come over with her tales of woe.
You are enabling her to burden you with her problems if you continue to give her a shoulder to cry on. Enough is enough.
2007-03-20 11:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not trust this girl!! If she having problems she shouldn't be coming around complaining to your man. What's your man to do? What if you complains she aint having enough sex, what's your man gonna do, (help her out?!). Get rid of her, seriously.
Any girl who complains about a relationship to another man is just looking for comfort and your man shouldn't be the one to comfort her!
2007-03-20 13:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not being silly and Def you do.this is totally inappropriate tell her she needs to stop coming round and slagging her fella off to your and talk to her fella and sort out there problems.xx
2007-03-21 00:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to be honest with her man and if she cant handle it move on. tell her straight up. good luck.
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a woman is like a tea bag... u never know how strong she is till she gets in hot water.
2007-03-20 11:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Desiness-on- Ice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certainly tell her how u feel ! but do it in a calm controled manner u have a right to say something if it makes u feel better. i dont like secrecy and deceit u shouldnt have to feel this way
2007-03-20 21:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You should ask your boyfriend what happened and work on enjoying your relationship, perhaps by planning an amusing trip somewhere.
Don't make her more important than she deserves to be.
2007-03-20 11:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋