Have you even gotten to be friends with your x's spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend? Do you feel strange in doing that?
2007-03-20 10:51:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
very rarely do people remain friends with their ex. It's very admirable for those who do remain friends after having a relationship.
2007-03-20 10:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have maintained a friendship with one of my ex's, but its not the same. My ex and I were really close in high school (friendship close), but now since we became ex's we try to still be friends but its hard. Maintained friendships with an ex is a good and bad thing, some people could become best friends with their ex's and some can't. I guess if you really try to be friends with them then it will work but it has to come from both directions, not just one sided.
2007-03-20 17:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lost in a Relationship 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've maintained good friendships with 2 of my Ex's... One from high school, and one that is my son's father. One was an amicable split, and I attended his wedding years later. My son's dad, that took a lot of work (trying to be good parents) and just changed into a friendship over time. Now we are happy with how things are as friends, and in our separate relationships.
2007-03-20 17:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, yes to both. I, and my current boyfriend are very good friends with one of my ex's. I also attended the wedding of another one of my ex's. It is totally possible to become friends, both just have to allow the pain or hurt to subside before attempting a friendship. I was also roommates with my boyfriend's ex for a while too. If you're mature, and they're mature and no one is out to sabotage the current relationship or trying to get back the relationship with you, it can indeed work.
2007-03-20 17:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! Once I got over the love thing I realized she didn't win I did by getting rid of his sorry butt. I mean we are still very close to the point of weekly calls but it's loud and clear I don't want him. After about 16 years she dumped him too and talks to him even less than I do. About all we have in common is cooking and adult kids but it's fun having someone around that shares a a time in life with to reflect on with.
2007-03-20 17:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by lindalousmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The closest friends I have are exes, which can be an issue for my current, but she trusts me and I trust her.
I only feel strange when my gf gets all nasty about it, but then I point to her exes that are good friends and I would never make her not see a friend, if she is going to cheat on me, that is her bad, not mine, I can't control her.
2007-03-20 17:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfgang92 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im actually friends with all my boyfriends old girlfriends! I think that if two people love eachother that you shouldnt have to STEAL or HURT there friends just be friends all together! OR on the other hand just drop them... they obviously got dumped for a reason by the one you like lol
2007-03-20 17:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cool Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my husband is friends with the girl he dated right before me. I've talked to her quite a few times. I helped her with some of her wedding questions when she got married and am taking my toddler to the Gymboree she works at for classes.
She and I get along and don't have any issues (that I'm aware of). Her husband seems to be bothered by my husband.
2007-03-20 17:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was going out with this guy until he dumped me because i 'wasn't hot enough'.
that was 2 years ago, and just a few monthes ago, one of my friends started to like him. he liked her, and then they went out for a little while.
i had felt betrayed, and i started to hate her. but then, i saw the error of my ways and we became friends again. they were still going out, so i guess you could say that we became friends.
no i didn't feel strange because by then i hated him, and had gotten over him.
2007-03-20 17:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by SARB3AR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all but 2 of them, they just couldn't take a joke , i guess. the ones that i do talk to , we've gotten closer and more like best friends now. don't hate , it was an experience that you had in your life.
2007-03-20 17:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mouchie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋