I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. In the very beginning we had sex all the time but other than that it hasn't been an everyday type of thing. Now that we live together, he knows I want it but doesn't seem to care at all. I don't understand why he isn't like other guys who want it all the time. It's hard having a higher sex drive than him. If it were up to him we might do it once every week or two. Not good enough for me! What do I do? How can I get him to want it more, if that is even possible?
2007-03-20 10:45:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't have a medical problem, I would know that. It's just like he has better things to do. :( Maybe he has low testosterone? Thats my only answer, but it definatly affects our relationship.
2007-03-20 10:53:51 · update #1
I'm 5'6" and very lean, but still have curves. So, I don't think its the way I look. And I know hes not cheating, he has strong morals. Anyone been here before?
2007-03-20 10:58:30 · update #2
I have been married 12 years and have had the same problem, off & on for ten of those years. This is such a tough place to be, because you can't ask your girlfriends for advice - THEIR boyfriends/husbands chase them around all the time why not yours? It could be that he just has a low sex drive. It could be that he is experiencing depression in other areas. If he is feeling bad about who he is, it would be hard for him to get beyond that and get 'into' you.
You NEED to tell him that this hurts you - and why. you have to tell him what you need, in very precice detailed words (he is, after all, male)
You need to know, that this, by itself is not going to just get better & go away. Can you live with sex once a month or so 'til death do you part? Thats a tough question. My husband and I are very good friends - and we have GREAT sex together - WHEN we do. But there is so much more to a relationship than that. Compromise is everything. Sometimes he needs to do it just for you... but you have to spell it out for him. He can't read your mind
Good luck
2007-03-20 11:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by mikki_doo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is getting it somewhere else? Maybe he has a medical problem that is killing his sex drive? You need to sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel, heart to heart. If he just doesn't have as high a sex drive as you do, then the two of you need to find a compromise before the issue breaks you two apart. Did you gain some weight over the last few years? Do you shower often? Sorry, but I had to ask. That's so wierd. Most of the time it's the woman who doesn't want it. Have you tried walking around naked or in sexy panties?
2007-03-20 10:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's odd.
Perhaps you could ask him about it.
There could be something medically wrong. He could be depressed. It could be due to some medication he is on. He could be having an affair.
*shrugs*
Bit hard to know.
I'm sure it is possible as you state that in the beginning you had sex all the time. But I guess you need to find out what has changed. It might be something fixable. It might be the way he is after a relationship has reached a certain point.
2007-03-20 10:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a medical problem take him to the Dr. or he could be getting it somewhere ealse. It is not that you have been together along time. I have been married 10 years and still have a very active sex life.
2007-03-20 10:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with men these days? I'd be more than happy to oblige you lol. Sounds to me like he's losing all interest in having sex. I wouldn't let this issue be brushed aside. ** I agree with you about the stress part, I think that's a cop out.
2016-03-29 09:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few drinks & watch some porn with him..
Tell him you love him and want to stay with him but
your sex drives are out of sync and you are becoming
very frustrated and unhappy...
I presume you have tried everything regarding sex...
Anal / Oral and all positions..
Ever considered inviting a g/f over for a 3some ?
2007-03-20 11:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no pun intended, but i need a girlfriend like you, i want it all the time, like twice a day
2007-03-20 11:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by brad h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2007-03-20 10:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Seduce him.
Or call me.
2007-03-20 10:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋