Ok my 15 year old cousin (same age as me) never called or wrote. I just found out that she was pregnant and she just had her baby about 2 weeks ago. I just found all this out yesterday. What would you do. Plus her actual dad is disowning her if the baby is black. Her mom threw her out. the babies daddy I think walked out. He is 17 years old. What can I do?
2007-03-20 10:42:56 · 7 answers · asked by Briann M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just offer a listening ear to your cousin. Offer to look after the baby whilst your cousin takes a nap...that sort of thing.
it sounds like her part of the family is being cruel and harsh, she's going to need someone to trust in!
2007-03-20 10:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow poor girl. There's not really much you can do about her home life. But you can buy her a thing or two to help out with the baby. Every mom needs lots of diapers, wipes, or diaper rash ointment (I recommend Desitin-it works the best). Or if she is planning to formula feed, you can get her some formula. Pacifiers, bottles, there's tons of stuff out there that will help new moms out. Also, just be there for her so she knows she can rely on someone. It doesn't sound like she can rely on the family she lives with too much. Even if you can't be there in person, call her so she knows she has someone to talk to. Talking about your problems can be very therapeutic.
2007-03-20 17:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive. She probably didnt call or write becuase she was embarrassed-- and her mom and dad are probably only reinforcing that feeling.
If she lives farther away where you cant help by babysitting and such, then call her and ask her if she needs anything-- diapers, clothes, formula, etc.
Tell her you're there for her and you support her decision(s). See what your mom/dad thinks-- if she's really on her own and she's family, maybe she can come live with you guys.
2007-03-20 17:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive, ask to help if she plans on giving the baby up for adoption. Just let her know you will be there for her. She needs that right now.
2007-03-20 17:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by nicsgirlus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to help her out with what you can. dishes, laundry, cooking, watching the baby while she sleeps. She's probably a emotional wreck, be there because your family and cause you care. you don't have to get a job and pay her bills but by offering your services whenever she needs them will help out a ton!
2007-03-20 17:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of that you can't do anything about. All you can really do is try and be there for her.
2007-03-20 18:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by ♡ kalila♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is try and be there for her as much as possible.
2007-03-20 17:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Law 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋