doctor to get check out i've been through all the test and they tell me nothings wrong with me so they asked me would he be willing to come and get tested( now it his turn and it's seem that he's worry about what he'll find out or just not really ready for kids) i'm constantly on his back about going and i don't know what else to do i really need some advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 10:41:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Maybe you should wait until after you are married and you are settled in together as a married couple. Marriage can be stressful at the beginning and when the stress levels aren't so high, then it will happen. You don't need to rush. Spend some good alone time now because you wont get it later! Good Luck!
2007-03-20 10:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to really have a talk with him about being "ready" for parenthood. If you are even unsure about it a little, something must be making you feel that way, so just be sure to double check. If he isn't, then you at least know what your dealing with. If he is, then I would keep trying a little longer, I mean its only been a couple of months right? Are you having sex everyday? Are you laying there without getting up to use the restroom right away? Just try a little more maybe nothing is wrong at all and you might be spending a great deal of money for nothing, a couple of months is not a long time. Relax and good luck.
2007-03-20 17:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably scared because you guys are not married yet and you can tell that you really want kids. I wouldn't doubt that it's running through his head that if he finds out he's infertile then maybe you wont want to marry him anymore. Be patient and remember that not everyone gets pregnant right away and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with either of them! Try and concentrate on planning the wedding that will help take your mind off of everything. Good luck I wish the best!!
2007-03-20 18:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by alaskagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Well, before ttc you should really sit down and dicuss whether this is the best time for BOTH of you to ttc. It may be that he isn't ready. You're better off knowing and doing what is best for the BOTH of you. If you do decide to ttc then he can go in and have the test done. Definitely sit down and discuss this with him.
Wishing you the best
Gigi
2007-03-20 17:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by gigi2195 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was so hard to get my husband in the doctor. My friend also had to have her husband go in and it was more like they didn't feel like a man because of it. My place let us take it home for him to do as long as we brought it back in 45 minutes. You can ask about that. Just tell him it doesn't make him any less of a man but more of a man for doing this for you. Good Luck!
2007-03-20 17:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by nicsgirlus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit messing with the kid. Find a man, find love, get married and have a great family. Option #2 WAIT for this kid to grow up and be ready for a family, get off his back and on his front. If he isn't ready, he isn't ready to be a father and you will be one of the single, unwed mothers trying to make it on your own.
2007-03-20 17:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny Ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sperm analysis is very simple...he has to masturbate into a cup...nothing to it. Tell him that you will go with him to help...some labs if they are close to you accept samples brought from home. They have to be deliverd within a certain amount of time after it has been taken, and you have to keep it warm till you get it there
2007-03-20 19:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he may not be ready. and if you are taking such a big step and bring a kid into the world together maybe you should think about getting married first.but sounds like your pressuring him a bit too much so it is more like a job for him relax and have fun
2007-03-20 17:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by bootchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is scared, they are insure just like we are and what if he sterile. Talk to him and reasure him that it will all be okay , either way that you still love him.
2007-03-20 17:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋