Why is it so hard to have a baby!!! You have sex, you have baby....right??? I just dont understand, and I'm bitter as hell that a bunch of 15 year old kids are having kids they dont even want, yet I have been thru hell in the past 2 years and cant even have ONE!! ARGH, I'm so figgin mad!!
Actually I'm sorry, I know there are 15 year olds that love their kids....its just...I havent been this angry in my entire life...I dont know what to do to not be so angry!! What did I do to deserve this crap!?!?
2007-03-20 10:30:03 · 15 answers · asked by TUBBY 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
with all the drugs and chemicals we use on a daily basis, there isnt anything "natural" about us. Hormones in meats and dairy products have made the babies so big before they are born. My 97lb. daughter had her first baby at 8lbs.14oz theres nothing natural about that. Stop trying to concieve, it puts stress on you. Once you forget about it for a moment, it'll happen.
2007-03-20 10:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by armymom2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything to deserve it and I know how hard it is. It's extremely frustrating, especially when you hear all those horror stories on TV. I think you'd really benefit from the message board for infertility on iVillage.com. That's where I went when we were trying and having a hard time--and I didn't have to wait two years, but I was still sad and angry and frustrated. Those women know exactly what you're going through because they've all been there or are going through what you are. I know one woman from the pregnancy after infertility board who tried for 11 years before she got pregnant and I think she's just pregnant again! They are some of the most supportive people I have ever known, even though I didn't really "know" them! They became like friends to me. Try it! It won't make you get pregnant any faster, but it always helps to be able to talk to people who know what you're going through. Good luck!
2007-03-20 17:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mom always says, "Life's not fair". I understand, I really do. As a 17 year old, I got preggy my first time. Now 10 years later, its taking forever (same guy, husband now) and I'm going nuts. Things happen for a reason, even if the reason sucks. Think about all those kids out there that need parents. If everyone could have kids, it would be even harder for kids to be adopted. I hope things work out for you, I really do.
2007-03-20 17:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you beleive in God, then he knows where and when. Babies are a beautiful thing, but those 15 yr old that don't know jack about kids, need someone who does. Love for a child does not run in your blood, it comes from the heart.you never know if you were meant to save a child from a parent who was cruel, or just unfortunate. When you hold a child, love it and nurture it,the face of the parent never enters the mind only the face of the child and the love you feel for him/her.
2007-03-20 17:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by yellow_rose_of_texas10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. My wife were on fertility drugs for nearly 2 years before we had our first. We went through Clomid "hell" as I call it, for 8 months! We were just as frustrated as you guys. My wife blamed herself based on guilt for a previous selective abortion. My wife was so hard on herself. It wasn't until she truly relaxed and was at peace that we got pregnant. When she stopped thinking about it 24/7 it happened. Baby # 2 came along 3 months later. The OB said we probably "primed the pump." Good luck to you both and I wish you the best.
2007-03-20 17:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all in due time- God has a plan for all of us, so don't trip! My sister is in the same position as you, she's been trying for about 6 years, but personally I think that by the time she gets pregnant she'll be SOOOOO ready, she'll be a supermom--and if she isn't able to, she's even considering adoption- the love she is wants to give a baby is unconditional! Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-20 17:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by WWJD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times in life things look bad, and it sounds like you really want a baby. Do you think that maybe your tring to hard, relax the reason all these kids are getting pregnant is their not trying, relax enjoy yourself and I'm sure it will happen.
2007-03-20 17:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard and confusing hun but be patient. It will happen for you when it YOUR time. You mentioned the 15 year olds having kids that the dont want.....maybe you were meant to love one of those babys instead....
2007-03-20 17:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by angelkisser4u02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that all of the people who had fertility problems would consider adoption. I understand the whole desire to be pregnant and have a child of your own... but I think God has a different plan for everyone and sometimes it's adoption.
2007-03-20 17:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Haulie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie, Its the weirdest thing, I know. It could be a whole bunch of factors, fertility, age, stress etc. What does your physician say?
Ofcourse there is always the option of adoption if in fact you are not able to concieve and are ready to throw in the towel. There are always options, right?
2007-03-20 17:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋