2007-03-20 10:22:01 · 17 answers · asked by twirlgirl17 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
be happy for her, its her life not yours. so really its not your place to say anything but happy things for her.
2007-03-20 10:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see how the number of children she already has should affect the way you react. I'm the second oldest of seven, and I've never had a problem with it. The only thing that might be an issue here, is if your mom doesn't see it that way. Make sure she knows you're happy for her, as always, and try to be extra helpful once the baby is born. That doesn't mean you have to turn into a full-time servant, though. You can still have plenty of time to do what you want to do; the baby shouldn't change that.
2007-03-20 17:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by night.lark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on your Mother's age; if she's still physically fit enough to have another child, then I wouldn't worry about it. But, if a doctor told her she shouldn't have any more kids after the fourth, then that might leave room for alarm.
I guess whether or not she wants to have another child is another point of interest... that is, if she can or can't afford another child, if the pregnancy was a total accident... there are a lot of factors here. But, until you know for sure how your Mother feels about it, my advice would be to let it alone and try to be happy for her... and for you; you'll have another brother or sister soon-- which I'm sure can be stressful, but considering I was the last child my Mother had, I've never known what it's like to have a baby brother or sister, and that's something I always wondered about. Just let it be for now, and see what she thinks of it before you make up your mind about how you feel about it. You never know... it could be just the thing to give your life perspective and a whole new meaning.
2007-03-20 17:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by bloodline_down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could choose to give her the biggest hug, and tell her congratulations. Tell her that you are so happy for her, and reassure her that she has your support. And if she needs anything at all she is to let you know! Whether she is a good mom or not is beside the point. There is a baby about to enter this world and it will be a sibling to the four of you. So, you can all start loving it now, even while it is in her tummy. Talk to it, sing to it, read to it, play music to it. All of you that are old enough to help her, should step up to the plate. Tidy up the house, dibby out chores between the ones that are old enough to do them. Make her some tea, take her some ginger-ale with crackers, some slices of lemon or lime, and even some apple slices, or wedges of plain lettuce in a chunk. These all helped me with nausea. A little back rub from time to time she will not only need this but appreciate this. You can choose to do what you can to make it a little or a lot easier for this lady who has brought you all into this world. It's all up to you and how you feel. All of you have a new family member coming soon, it's time to re-joice and prepare the home. Congratulations to all of you, you are all having a baby!!!
2007-03-20 17:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different and always a blessing.
Money may be tight, but people are more important than things.
I would say something nice, even if you are not overjoyed. Of course you should not lie to her, but pregnancy is a difficult time no matter how many times you have been pregnant before. I am sure your mom needs your love and support.
2007-03-20 18:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by kittyrat234b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, gauge how she feels about having another child. Then, examine the relationship that you and your own mother have together. If it is great, then be happy for her. If not, it is not the burden you bear to have another one, anyway. Besides, what was your first reaction when you found out about your mother's situation? Use that as a starting point in how you want to feel about your mom's news.
2007-03-24 17:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by ldog247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you aren't already helping raise your other siblings....be happy for her!
if youre worried because you feel you already have too much responsibility taking care of your little brothers or sisters....bring it up to her. you shouldnt have to raise them!
if you are scared you wont be getting enough quality time with your mom....let her know! i am sure if she knew you felt that way she would make it a point to spend some time with you before and after the new baby.
2007-03-20 17:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful. My friend had 5 children, the youngest being 5 when she died. She had radon cancer. She was 43, beautiful and loved her children more than anything. All she was concerned about was her children's health and if they had been exposed. I loved her. And miss her terribly. Life is a beautiful thing. Treasure it no matter how or when it is created.
2007-03-20 17:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably just be happy for her! if shes a good mom and can take care of her kids then everything should be okay!...youll enjoy having a baby around i think!
2007-03-20 17:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by babygirlz3n2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mother a good mother?, Does she love all of the children, does she feed you? Is she asking you for something? If your mother wants this baby and she is a good mother , and if she is happy, be happy for her.
2007-03-20 17:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should react how u feel about. people might say be happy about it but u cant make yourself be happy. feel what u feel right now.
2007-03-20 17:26:36 · answer #11 · answered by Chantel J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋