Falling apart part 2?

Question

I would like thank you people for your advise,But there is to side to every story,So here we go, she stood bye and supported me throw MANY of my problems,see im a recovering alocoholic with NO license and 2 DUI's,but i do have it under control,and trying get my license back,so im limted to what types work i can get{pay wise} she has a good job ,I done things that im not proud of to her,but i have got help for,Im jealous,and ya i can be jerk and hard live with sometimes, I do love more that any women ive ever loved,Her family pretty much hate me,her family is very close ,sometimes to close i think,Myself im not close to my family,the reason for myself why we were married yet was,Ive been wating for things that we talked about to change and maybe i was wrong for waiting,I think alot of people would have left me bye now, im not sure abouting her cheating,or just me?,I know i pictured us get old together,believe me she has made me a better person in many ways,but we dont talk

Answer 1

After reading the other part to this, it is hard to understand some of what is going on, but do you think because of your drinking in the past and limited income you can bring home has caused her to back off? You also said she was on my space talking to friends and telling them how unhappy she was, have you two had a serious talk other than maybe yelling about the problems in your relationship? We can talk and then we can talk to each other, which happens alot in relationships, the best thing for you is if you have changed show her, no amount of words will change her mind, actions will speak volumes over words.

Answer 2

I am not sure what your question is but going to answer to what I think it is. It sounds like you love this woman who stood by your side through your illness. You need to thank her for it and prove to her you have changed. Right now don't worry about her family. You have succeed through your treatment and need to take one day at time, and one triumph at a time. You can work on rebuilding the relationship with her family later. I also woulnd't worry if she cheated while you were ill or going through treatment. I have never been around an alcoholic but have seen documentaries on TV so I know she had to struggle. (As well her family ... and that is why they are not so accepting of you today) But you are getting stronger and working hard so keep doing what you are doing. Just like you want her to forgive you for your illness, forgive her for what ever she had to do to just COPE with life while dealing with it all. Now it is your turn to shine so go out and do it!

Good luck!