She just broke up w/ this guy about 3 months ago and she was like super sad. She started to wear black more often and writing depressing poems about how she felt. They were so horrible I even felt bad for her. The guy that dumped her is my best freind. He dumped her because he wanted someone else ( he didn't get that girl). Then about a week ago he asked to go back out w/ her. She was more than happy to. Unfortunately that only lasted five days because they both just didn't like it. Now she's drawing stuff like depressing pictures and cartoons. What should I do to help her get over him?
2007-03-20 10:05:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best thing to do is to just be there for her when she
needs you...and to give her some time...... stuff like that affects people in different ways....spend some time with her to help her forget what happened
2007-03-20 10:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sancho... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really comfort her. Have a night out or something to cheer her up. If you feel she's turning goth or a bit emo (it sounds like she is--no offense), then talk to her about the good things in her life, how there are many more fish in the sea, and things like that. Tell her about all the other people who love/like her, like you, her family, etc. In your night out, do something fun to keep her mind off of sad things, go see a funny movie and then go out for ice cream later. If she is a good drawer, encourage her to draw nice things other than depressing pictures and cartoons. Maybe she can sell her artwork, if it's really good. Basically, if you really care about her, then you need to be a shoulder that she can lean on and make her happy about her life. P.S.--if you notice some strange behavior or signs that she's been doing drugs or cutting herself (depression can do that), then tell someone IMMEDIATELY!!! There is also the possibility that she is not depressed, but just feels like expressing her feelings in this way. Talk to her about it. Hope she feels better!! ^_^
2007-03-20 10:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jeweled_Aqua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of us deal with lifes turbulance in many ways.now as a friend she needs you for a shoulder to cry on.take her out to lunch and even a funny movie or any movie (not drama)i suggest 300.it's a good movie by the way.!go for a walk it relieves stress and its good for theheart.sometimes it s really hard to listen to a friend who's going thru stuff.i'm lucky i've got good friend just be there for her.
2007-03-20 10:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chris y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang com. You can help her out like get to know her. Like help her get back to her hobbies. Maybe be you can commuite through cartoons and drawings. Try becoming friends, give her a reason to look bright. Maybe I can help her out.
2007-03-20 10:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Robby M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to do anything beyond listening. No advice, no words of wisdom*, nothing --- just lend your ears. That's the best thing you can do for her.
*Whatever you say might backfire...it might cause a rift between you and your buddy...so hush, ok?
2007-03-20 10:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by tin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a guy for her to go out with, and make her enjoy real life.
2007-03-20 10:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her explain her he is not a perfect guy for her. Make her to feel she is something very spl live it full
2007-03-20 10:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by ditchmeples d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and she would mostly have to get over him by herself and just try to talk to her
2007-03-20 10:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋