Do you crave approval? (--,)?

Question

When you're criticized, is your reaction "Boo hoo" or "Screw you"?

Answer 1

Very good question.

In all reality, I know that not everyone will approve everything I do or say because that is apart of life.

I always tell my wife that if I do anything or say something that she don't like, she need to let me know so I can adjust my behavior appropriately because I might not be aware of how my actions effect others around me. I want her to be an extra set of eyes that will keep me in line.

Being criticized does not always feel good, but if your wise and realize there is always plenty of room for improvement.

Being criticized helps you to see things in a different perspective.

As a leader, its good to hear every side of approvals and disapprovals to make the best decision.

It all depends on the way you are being criticized that will make you react in a boo hoo or srew you manner.

Overall, we all need criticism sometimes.

Answer 2

Of course I want approval, but not crave it.

But I am quite aware that I can't satisfy eveybody. There are always two sides of everything, that satisfaction of one side would naturally create dissatisfaction on the other.

And my wanting approval will always be subjugated to what I believe is right. The latter comes first. When that one is at issue, I wouldn't care if others would disapprove of me.

My belief is that as long as I don't take advantage of others, as long as I don't intentionally harm others, I would't mind not getting the approval of others.

So, reaction whether violent or not would depend on the intent behind the criticisms. If positive, meant to help to get me in the right path, I can accept it with reason. But if the critism is malicious intended to insult, I won't take it without giving that person a piece of my mind.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with constructive criticism-it can be quite beneficial for both parties.
Criticism carried out in a tactful way can produce a lot of food for thought.
I become agitated when criticism becomes a personal attack, not so much at me, but at my family.

Answer 4

No, approval for me is insignificant. What matters is that no intentional harm was done to others.

I simply listen to the criticism; if it is valid, then I thank the person for letting me know and do my best to improve.

If it is invalid, the criticism will not affect me.

Answer 5

My reaction, I think ideally, it should be accepting. As for me, yes it hurts to receive criticism but it is also beneficial because you know how and in what area you can improve.

Answer 6

all i know is we need attention every now and then and the word craving is kind of an obsession that has a negative meaning to it. i welcome all kinds of criticism but i don't fight back. i'm kind of a passive person and very forgiving. slap me on the cheek and i'll offer you the other cheek. i should be a nun but i became a mother instead.... lol.

Answer 7

My reaction is : Approve ba?

If it's not, I tear the person to shreds.

joke

but jokes are there to be half-meant

Answer 8

if its constructive criticism...that can do anyone some good...and it helps me.

for the most part though its all about 'screw u'...why worry about what others (who probably dont know u) think?

Answer 9

screw you because they have no right to criticize me if they don't even spend a single cent to everything I have.

Answer 10

My reaction is violence accompanied with tears and rage. Later my mother forgives me.