I feel I should never get married because it is whats expected of women, alike. I hope I should never be FORCED to get married, like arranged marriages. I would have boyfriends, but just never get married, for some reasons I keep to myself too. Is this a good decision, or a bad? My friends agree with me on this, but my parents say it is bad.
2007-03-20 09:53:12 · 21 answers · asked by LuaxxRawr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So, your family is from India, right? The cultural differences there regarding marriage and what's expected are really too different for you to get an honest opinion from a bunch of Americans, because quite honestly, I agree with you that you should never be FORCED to marry. You should marry when (and only when) you find someone you can imagine yourself growing old with.
As far as the decision to never marry, well...I say never say never. You never know what opportunity is going to present itself in the future, and you don't want to rule out a relationship with someone simply because you had decided you were "never" going to get married.
Marriage can be a beautiful thing, and a great blessing in many lives, I know mine has been. But that's in the context of America, where women are seen more as equals to men, and not in a culture where women are more subservient to their husbands. My husband and I are partners in life, I don't wait on him, he doesn't wait on me. We help each other out, we give each other strength when the other needs it, we complement each other with our respective strengths and weaknesses. Just because a culture doesn't look at marriage in that light, doesn't mean that's not the way it can be.
2007-03-20 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT your parents decision to make.
Lots of women never marry and that is up to you my dear.No one can force you to marry whether it's arranged or not.We are not in the dark ages anymore.
Maybe you enjoy your own company and prefer to be alone.
Nowdays,women are much more independant and secure and make it on their own quite well but it's also good to have a few good friends for company once in awhile.
If this is what you truly want then stick to your decision and no one should try to convince you otherwise.
Just be happy within yourself.
2007-03-20 17:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a decision you have to make yourself, your friends and family can't make it for you. If you get married just because you think you should, it's going to be a destructive marriage. Marriage is supposed to make life better. When two people love each other and can fight through life's ordeals together, its one of those things where two is better than one, ya know? It's easier to get through the hard times with someone by your side, a partner, then it is to struggle through them alone. (there will be hard times whether your married or not).
2007-03-27 14:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be forced into marriage. It is a lifelong decision for a couple to make and parents should never try to force it on their children. That is why, here in the good old USA we can make our own decisions as to this issue.
2007-03-26 22:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by freedomrings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are forced to get married you have 100% failing the marriage life. If you are ready to settle down with your other half than you are ok to go. However for most parents, they want their children to settle down. This is very much typical for all parents. But for you, if you don't want to get married, than don't get married. Your parents will not live your life for you. Let it go. Just know that they will never give up on you getting married and settling down with someone.
2007-03-20 17:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a smart way to go. Be in a relantionship with someone but don't make it legal unless you want to. But it might save you from some major agruments that most married couples have. I completely agree with your decision. You may change your mind. But for right now just go with it!!!
2007-03-27 09:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Cath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get married, that's entirely your choice. I said the same thing when I was younger, I'm now happily married (although I still hold firmly that I don't want children).
Lots of people live happy lives without being married; some are celibate, others have monogamous relationships, still others play the field their whole lives. It is entirely up to you whether or not you want to get married someday.
2007-03-20 19:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by nomadic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and your decision to make.
Just keep in mind that not every marriage puts women in servitude. There are some wonderful men out there who love and adore their wives.
2007-03-20 16:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos your parents know that soon all your friends will get married or move on with their lives. You will probably be too old to have your pick of admirers and soon too old to have kids. You may never be rich enough to buy friends and adopt kids. Then loneliness comes--greater than your wanting to be alone. The tv dont help then. It comes with depression. Think again girl.
2007-03-20 16:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TONS of people feel this way. Marriage is becoming an outdated tradition that most men and women are staying away from. Personally, I think its your own choice. Good luck
2007-03-20 17:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋