guys say that they'd defienetly cheat if they got the chance to then why do they have to get married aren't the human? don't they care if they hurt pplz feelings especially if it's someone they love? do you guys just not care?................................................................AND YES LAP DANCES, STRIP CLUBS, BJ'S, HAND JOBS, KISSING ARE CHEATING it's not just intercourse and for guys who say tht strippers and lap dances aren't cheating think about THIS............would it be cheating if you're gf/wife was stripping and rubbing her naked body all over someone? hmmmmmm.........
2007-03-20 09:46:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First all men don't cheat.
Second, cheaters, regardless of gender are just plain selfish.
Third, those men you are complaining about are cheating with women, so why don't you call them to the carpet as well.
I agree with you, those things are cheating. Where I disagree is with the idea that it's a gender issue. It's not, it's a character issue.
2007-03-20 09:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe they're just not in love any more. it takes two to keep a flame going in a relationship. when was the last time you danced nude for him and rubbed it in his face? when was the last time you gave a bj and talked really dirty? when was the last time you gace him a hand job in a public location where it was "dangerous"? Some men like that sort of thing. If your man is leaning that way, then be dirty and give it to him.. Even if you are religious, your religious vows meant for better or worse. Just confess to God how dirty your man is and you are supposed to submit to his desires. or some BS like that. Your God should forgive you, right?? Get down and dirty.
2007-03-20 10:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by OleGreyGoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys believe that way! Your problem is becoming involved with immature little boys. It is also good to know that you don't offer any sexual favors before getting to know if the guy you are with is a lying, cheating, womanizing, excuse of a man. You only find that out by talking to him for quite a few months before jumping into bed for exercise.
2007-03-20 09:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something like this must have happen to you to be so outraged. Not all men cheat, or do any of the stuff you are talking about. You just have come across a few of the bad ones.
2007-03-20 09:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by NLH823 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are not the only ones that cheat. It sucks but everyone does it. It is really dumb for people that cheat to get married but they probably do love you but they are so selfish that they just want you and the other things on the side.
2007-03-20 09:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by luvmrtnz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as much as I hate to say this, but most men are cheaters, and if given the chance, they'd be out there doing something as long as they think they're not going to get caught. I have had the most perfect gentlemen during the beginning then after a while it's like they feel they're entitled to get their **** off with another woman. Never thinking of YOU until AFTER the act, and if they get away with it then they'll just continue to do it.
My fiance's a good guy, but right now I'm rethinking my life w/him, cause I can't even be at work w/out thinking where is he, is he actually at home sleeping like he should be(he works nights) or is he sneaking out of my home??
For instance, as happy as my man claims he is, as glad as he is to have a family, and adore our daughter....he still messes up.
Not too long ago, he did exactly what I told him NOT to do for yearssssssssss, go to another woman's house when I wasn't there with him, was he able to follow directions? I thought he would, but he let me down big time.
For almost a year I was out of work caring for our daughter...
he was good the entire length of time that I was home with our daughter, but 3 weeks into my new job , he told me he was going to home depot and ended up 'stopping by' this female 'friend' of ours. He claimed it was because she had alot of issues (which I did know about, but since when did he become Dr Phil?) Either way, thank God I had a spy on my home computer which he knew about, but when he deleted the IMs with this woman and made a 20 minute phone call to her after the Instant Message AND when I asked him where he was at he gave me an entire run down of his whereabouts except stopping at her house. So I would think that's guilt that he's harboring . If he did nothing wrong he would of been more open instead of hiding things.
He makes the crappiest decisions at times, and to be honest I want to slap some sense into him at times, but that's just wishful thinking. It's not that he did something, to be honest I think he did BUT I have no proof so I have to sit with that on my chest.
I just don't think it's worth all the effort of worrying about him cheating when he shows signs that he can be guilty of it himself.
What pisses me off most is how upset he gets when our female friends get cheated on, but yet he is capable of doing the same crap
. NOT ALL men are like this, but the majority of them are, give them a little rope , they eventually hang themselves when they're sneaky.
2007-03-20 10:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Rubia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE GIVE ME A BREAK!
WOMEN DO AS WELL!
i NEVER CHEATED BUT MY WIFE DID !
You talk about cheating ,but you don't talk about how to prevent it!
HERE'S WHAT YOU DO!
TALK,TALK, AND TALK SOME MORE!
TELL YOUR SPOUSE THAT YOU WILL NOT ACCEPT A CHEATER IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL DIVORCE THEM ON THE SPOT!
This little bit of information is said to prevent over 77% of affairs simply by informing the spouse of consequences of their actions!
My wife had affair right after we got married and it was over for over a year after I found out!
I still started divorce proceeding's for the affair!
It took enormously efforts a talking to marriage counselor to get over what happen.
I've been married now for 16 years, to her and she know I will divorce her should she ever have another affair!
Cheating is cheating and there should be a law on the books that says a cheater lose everything if they cheat!
2007-03-20 10:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consider this,
Get the girls together and go to an all ladies strip club, experience it for your self.
Me never been to a strip club, I have old school mentality after marrage one partner for life, thats the reason you get married. In a relationship you must work and grow together with everything, even your sex life.
2007-03-20 15:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Waz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men don't cheat. I agree that the majority probably does or will but I don't think it as a general rule. There are men out there that can actually be trusted. It's finding available ones that's the hard part!
2007-03-20 09:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, ALL men do not cheat, I know because I've been married to one for 19 years who has never cheated, and yes, I do know that. Finding the guy who will not cheat is another story though, and I'm sorry that you found one who thinks so little of your feelings that he felt it necessary to get physical stimulation outside of your relationship. Just remember, all men don't behave in this way, but sadly, alot of them do.
2007-03-20 09:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋