i have a friend at uni who is from a very rich family and stuff, and she;s invited me to her 21st birthday to this really posh nightclub.
But the problem is that all her other friends are a bunch of snobs, and don't ever speak to me as i am from a different background.
should i go or not? i don't know if should...
2007-03-20 09:39:43 · 21 answers · asked by star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you won't feel comfortable then don't go,you can do something together at another date.
2007-03-23 20:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could just go for your friend. Youcould turn up, give her a hug, get yourself a drink, drink it and leave. You've shown your face and that's all that was asked for.
Or you could see this as a personal development opportunity - when you leave uni you will have to mix with all sorts of people from all sorts of backgrounds. When you have a degree it lifts you out of your background - no-one cares if you are the offspring of an unemployed dosser from dosstown or Lord HaHa from Chuntsville - just what you life experiences are. So go, make yourself interesting to people - ask about themselves and you'll probably find they aren't such snobs they were just a bit scared of talking to you because they didn't think there was common ground between you. A good tip is to swot up on some recent event - proper news not celeb stuff and talk about that - or about a good film you've seen or a book you've read. Anything to get a conversation going. Of course they won't talk to you if yo sit on your own scowling.
You are gonig to meet a lot more people who might seem snobbish at first if you are going to get on in your career the trick is to treat them like people - they might have money and a posh dad but they still worry about and enjoy the same things you do. Trust me, I'm a printer's daughter from a Northern pit village but my husband is the public school educated son of a dentist!
2007-03-20 16:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you like this friend? If she's a good friend, you should go an party with her on her birthday. Use your charm and win over those girls. The most you spend time with them and show them who you really are, I'm sure they will eventually warm up.
2007-03-20 16:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this person your friend? Does she talk to you? If so you should tell her that you want to go but express your concerns and how you are uncomfortable. If she is any kind of friend then she will make sure that you dont feel like an outcast!!
Or you could just get really wasted and tell them all to F@ck off
2007-03-20 16:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by deeshamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on whether your friend will be disappointed if you don`t go or not.Maybe ask her if she does not mind if you take a friend give the excuse that it would be safer to have somebody you knew going to and from this nightclub.Also if you explain to her that you don`t know anybody else and you would feel more comfortable to have an extra person you knew there.................good luck.
2007-03-20 16:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going there to please anybody but to share the joy & fun with your friend on her special day. Go, have a good time. Be polite with everyone. If you get ignored it's their bad manners that will draw the most attention. while you show everyone your confidence that nobody is above you.
2007-03-23 12:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable then don't go, you will be miserable the whole evening. If you really feel like going bring along a friend or two so that you don't feel left out.
2007-03-20 16:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be comfortable.I would ask if i could bring a friend.or just buy her a present.Its up 2 how u feel,if ur shy then don't go.If ur not then go and have a chat and a laugh.you might even meet someone who isn't a snob.good luck.
2007-03-20 17:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by angela c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about you turn up for a few minutes, check out what the atmosphere is like and if it's not feeling good to you, then just head home. that's what i'd do
2007-03-20 17:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your friend if she minds if you bring someone with you
have a whale of a time
support your friend
and never mind those stuck up bastards - they probably aint worth wasting your time on anyway!
have a good one and a drink for me!
2007-03-20 16:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go but don't let the snobs down you, if the say or do anything stupid let them have it!!
2007-03-20 16:44:10 · answer #11 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋