I make friends...who doesn't...but making friends involves other frineds wanting to be friends with those friends. Well one of my friends (use to be BF) seems to make friends with anyone I do and seemingly leaves me OUT!!!! THis is her excuses: "Well....I've known them like forever" or "They started talking to me though" or "They don't belong to you" But when we have 'us' time...we're like sisters. But I'll love for her to stay out of my other friendships. I'm only 12 so try to watch your lang. (mom might read)
2007-03-20 09:39:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm just like you. I mean i was a sweet girl in school and had a couple of really good friends but it always seemed that they always found it easier to make new friends and kind of push me aside. I mean when it was just us we got along great but when the other friends would be around she would act like a total snob. The best advice i can give you is just try your hardest to just go up and talk to other people and find your own kind of friends to hang out with. OTher people who share the same interests and goals as you do. YOu can still be friends with the other girl but your going to have to learn how to stand up for yourself and creep out from under the shellyour hiding in. its hard i've been there but it does get easier i promise. Being 12 years old is hard. especially if your a girl. the teen years are brutal but you will make it through and you will find out who your real friends are. You are still so young and you will soon realize that the friends you have now wont probably still be your friends when your in high school. as you get older your interests change and you start drifting apart and thats how you meet new friends. when i was 12 i had a best friend i'll never forget her we were friends up until my junior year of high school she started doing drugs and hanging out with the wrong crowd that just wasnt my scene. I was a more laid back girl i mean i liked to have fun but in my eyes there are different ways to have fun than to do drugs or hang out with people who do. Now i'm 22 years old and i havent talked to that girl since my junior year. I have found some really good friends who share the same intrests as me and who have been there for me through my worst of times. I do wish you the best of luck and i hope i have helped you a little bit. I know i ramble on and on i cant help it.
2007-03-20 09:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making friends doesnt necessarily involve other friends wanting to be friends with those friends. If two people 'click', then they're going to be friends. Unfortunately, there's nothing that you can really do about it. Why does it bother you to know that your ex best friend is making other friends? As a friend you should be happy for her, looking out for whats best for her, not trying to outdo her. When it comes to friendship, its not a matter of who has more friends or not. It's a matter of how much those people really mean to you, how much they affect you in your life. It's a matter of "do i really care about this person, or not?". You see, don't get upset over the fact that your exbf is making the same friends you are, even if she is infact trying to outdo you. When you stay mature about things, she'll notice how better you really have it and how childish she's acting. If she does something you dont like, be the mature one and try to help her in doing whats right, not question her for what shes doing. Show her what a real friend is all about.
Good luck kid!
2007-03-20 09:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Reemalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and keep making friends. Talk to your bf and tell her how she makes you feel. Maybe shell try to treat you differently next time. And if not shes not a good friend after all. Your young so just be happy dont get too caught up in friendships they will come and go just like boyfriends. Along the way you will hopefully make a couple really good friends that you will still be friends with in college. But as for here and now talk to her and keep on making new friends if she keeps treating you like your not a friend all the time maybe you should reconsider your friendship with her and move on. Good luck.
2007-03-20 09:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by ByouTfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like the type who loves being the center of attention. either that or she does not like sharing you with any one else, so she 'buts' in your other relationships so that no one else can monopolize you. If others want to be friends with her that is cool but do not let her run your other relationships. you have the right to any friends you want and even if she is you BF she can't do that to you. I say talk to her and explain her feelings. also talk to an older person who knows both of you who can help. Big sister...etc.... If she is jealous of your other friends you either may have to reinforce your relationship with her by telling her how important she is or tell her that things may have to cool down. take some time from her. you both are at a transition in your life and may grow in different directions. don't fight, agree to disagree and leave it at that. oh and Mom's are wonderful at listening... most of the time
2007-03-20 09:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by LizettaRose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'v had this problem before. My friend did that and a lot more then that. I did the wrong thing though. I ditched her for other people then she got mad. Maybe try talking it over with her again. If she gets mad and walks out then that answers your question. She's not a real friend. I hope your problem works and if you don't like what I wrote don't do it!! Good Luck :)
2007-03-20 09:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said "they don't belong to you" well they don't belong to her either or anyone else for that matter. If she met them through you then you have known them longer. Also, if she was a true friend she would include you in their convos or whatever they are doing. I understand you guys get along like sisters when no one else is around but, still. No one should treat anyone like that no matter what.
2007-03-20 09:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by sllikylloh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel, i used to have "friends" like that at my school, one minute they were best buddies with u, then the next, they would be whispering, but still staring straight at u, as if u didnt even know they were chatting about u ? real friends have time to be with u , plus share time with other mates. if they cant do this, and push u out, to talk to their ( your friend ) they are not true friends. u will find friends , with the same hobbies, and interests as u dont worry ? just keep chatting, smiling and being friendly with people, it does work ! all the best ! sharon.
2007-03-20 10:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by sharon j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth losing your friendship with her, over other people and if you two are really good friends then let it lie don't let that stuff come between you two good friends are hard to come by :-). Ya know something else she sounds like a really great friend so hold on to that
2007-03-20 09:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by aquarius_water_goddess_29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now this is some hardcore funny stuff thanks for the laugh...all i can say is that shes trying to out do you she might not be a real friend if shes excluding you from certain activities....just sit dont and really talk to her even though she might not listen cause shes a selfish and immature little brat...good luck just ignore her childish games its about time she started to grow up and realize shes a retard
2007-03-20 09:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at that age, most of your friends are bound to be like that. Just enjoy the friends you have and try to make other friends closer.
2007-03-20 09:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋