im feeling being betrayed by my hubby:(?

Question

hez working abroad and we only talk on the phone and chat online.i have always given him a lot of importance.his family telsl him thats luky he has me.we fought coz he kept me waiting all nite for him to talk to me and he never cames.we made up afterwards but i found out that eh todl his family that i demand too much time and that i dun understand and get upset.his mother talked2me about it(if we r havinsome probs?)i was so hurt coz he told every1 and all his family were advicin me and stuff.he admits that i have always been there for him.stood by his side when he had probs.always understood him.the truth is that he never clears anythin to me.when im in prob he isnt bothered to be there for him.never shows me that he cares.i didnt tell this to my family.& he just told every1&made me the bad wife.im so heart broken.he made me feel as if hes just forced to talk to me.as if he talks to me just because if he wont i will get upset.wat shud i do:(i feel so insulted i realy wana kil myself:(

Answer 1

I think it is your ego that is hurt. And it's because he talked to his family about business that was only yours and his to talk about. I'm sorry that he did this. I know it hurts. But, in marriage, we know that we are going to get our feelings hurt and we are going to hurt our spouse's feelings. This is one of those times. I would tell your husband the following, "I felt very hurt when I learned from family members about our issues as I feel that those types of issues should remain between us."

Would that be a true statement? I would suggest you calmly tell his family members the same the next time they get involved when they should not.

Marriages can be difficult at times. Cheer up - problems can and do get worked through. And remember, you are not alone as anyone that is married can tell you. We all have our moments, hurts, pains, rejections, laughs, triumphs, cheers, and goals met. Oh, and in-laws, too! Good comes with bad. You'll be okay!

Answer 2

No offense dear.. but let me get this straight.....

You're mad, basically because he went and told everyone your business? Well, aren't you doing the same thing here? Sure, it's not the same as family.. but you're on here letting the world know about what's going on in your marriage, when it should be dealt with between the two of you.. It's just something to think about.

Also.. not to sound all nit-picky, but you should really work on typing in full words, instead of all that shortcut stuff.. It just sounds like "teen talk" to me. I understand that you are married and grown.. but from the way you type and word things, it really doesn't look that way. As I said, I'm not trying to be nit-picky.. just offering some advice. I just think it's a little hard to expect to be taken seriously, when you don't even type out full words. Just a thought!

You and your husband need to have some serious talks about everything.

I hope everything works out.

Take care!

Answer 3

Im sorry hes like that he really shouldnt talk bad about you to his family.sometimes we are demanding as wives.but it sounds like other than the phone and internet you have
little time togather.its not demanding to want time togather
talk to him try to set aside a day togather plan it out.
you might think about marriage counsiling or counciling youreself the reason Is saying you wish to harm youreself
thats really not the aswer." take care of you foremost"

Answer 4

There are always 2 sides to every story. And no one can give you proper advice without knowing his side of the story.

When he gets back, sit down and talk to him. Until then, if you talk like you type, then work on that, as it seems very very immature.

Answer 5

I have to tell you that I simply cannot read your question. Did you ever go to school or is English your second language?