I have lost a dear friend to me b/c of a situation where she was dead wrong & I expressed my frustrations to that. So instead of telling her what she wanted to hear I told her what she needed to hear. We were thick as thieves & now haven't spoken for 3 years now. I have moved on & I have other friends but is that a bad thing.............telling ur friends what they need to hear & not what they wanna hear?
2007-03-20 09:15:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honesty is rarely a bad thing.
However, as much as your friends sometimes need to hear what they don't necessarily want to hear, the key is to know WHEN to tell them the truth.
It is sometimes all in the timing.
If you don't agree you can be silent, a friend would know what that silence means. Later on, when the time is right you can be frank.
Maybe it was not so much what you said as how and when you said it. That is not to say you were at fault, as you were only being honest to yourself and you thought honest to her: key to any friendship.
Maybe you really were not as 'thick' or close as you thought.
Ultimatley move on. If you happen to see her in the future be pleasant.
2007-03-20 09:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by mxn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling a friend what they need to hear is a matter of timing and a question of their character. Some people just cannot handle the truth. Some people will feel like its not your place to tell them your "opinion"
Not everyone is able to handle a relationship like that. My best friend told me something about the way she viewed me recently. It should have ripped my heart out. But I respect her for her honesty. She cried when she told me and ended it with I love you and I don't want to hurt you. I am not mad at her for it. Of course it hurt. It still hurts. But I respect her so much more for just being honest.
If your friends are able to tell you the truth no matter what... then you know you can give them the same in return. Sometimes you meet people that just aren't equipped to handle that or just aren't ready to see it yet.
Honesty is important in any relationship. Thats the signs of a stable friendship. Just know the difference between your opinion (which may not always need to be voiced) and the truth.. the way things really are. Then guage the person and ask yourself if they are ready to hear it.
2007-03-20 17:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Buack's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. That is why my best friend loves me so much b/c I am so real with her and not fake. But I have fallen out with someone before b/c I wouldnt always take her side and tell her what she wanted to hear. sorry but I am not going to be fake for anyone and you shouldnt worry about it.
2007-03-20 16:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by bnelly05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of people always disagree all the times and they wont accept from other people who disagree. It will take time to accept the fact. If your dear friend didnt accept your opinion about it but hey if you did push her down, means it was your fault to annoy her how much it was wrong. Always have to be careful with opinions or speak up becuase it always mess up with friendships. People have feelings.
2007-03-20 16:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You treat people the way that you want to be treated, thats how I feel! I always tell my friends what they NEED to hear, thats what friends are for..
2007-03-20 16:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by r_fazenbaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can be honest 2 friends can u
2007-03-20 16:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dominique B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋