About a month ago we were having some trouble and we kinda took a lil brk but it wasnt like desided and i kinda cheated on her im not sayin i didnt just wanted some advice if we should stay together or brk up? Its been real hard for the both of us but i think she thinks i did it to gain somethang and i didnt infact im regreting it and dont know what to do? If i should just leave because i know she deserves better than me or stay? We love eachother very much. If i sound stupid then just tell me that im just lost in what i should do. Thanks in advance!
2007-03-20 09:13:36 · 5 answers · asked by doubledz2588 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, Dearest, you did do a very stupid thing.....now that that's said and done, let's get down to what to do about the situation at hand.
Ask yourself this: Do I still love my partner? Does she still love me? If both of these answers are yes, which you're Question indicates it is, then the relationship is *not* over and is still worth working out (and I mean *seriously* worth working out.) I've been in mine for almost 27 years...do you think that was easy? Marriage takes hard work. it's not easy.
You made a mistake. A big one. Now what are you going to do about it. Your partner loves you. Be a grown woman and fess up if you already haven't. Get tested for STD's, make a solemn pledge never ever to do it again and move on.
Your partner on the other hand must try and work out her grief, anger and betrayal because that's what she's going through. I never cheated on my partner but I did make a 3000 dollar error in the checkbook which caused more than a huge setback. We're still working our way out of the hole I dug. I could have lost my Best Beloved because of it. tyhank God I didn't.
Talk. Talk to each other about your feelings. Don't keep it bottled up, but once this is over, let it remain over. Don't pull it out at any little thing and use it as a weapon.
If you love each other enough, you can save your relationship, but you have to want to. Write me if you need to. You can get me through Y!A and then we'll see. Blessings, daughters.
2007-03-20 09:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-20 17:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by The Gene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave her, you guys have some problems and need alot of help. Two years is a long time but you guys aren't working it out anymore.
2007-03-20 16:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would you feel if the tables were turned and she cheated on you??? Enuff said...she should leave you because your loyalties lie somewhere else and not with her.
2007-03-20 16:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by MS.MOCHA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to each other. I f you can't do that, there's no point staying together!
2007-03-20 16:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by no_fool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋