my husband loves his sister madly he abuses me verbaly because of her. he says her name in dreams (in night). he can't hear even a single word against her. she is married but he gives her money. i m beautiful but he always insults me and he never listen to me. he stares her badly. i dont understand wat is going on?please help me.
2007-03-20 08:53:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Him and his sister aside...why the hell would you stay with somene who treats you like that?
2007-03-20 08:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not living together? I mean your sister in law and you.
There are situations where people might have had illicit relations between blood relations. When a person reaches his adolescence and if his sexual urge is not met properly, such things can occur; either physically or psychologically . This is exactly what Sigmund Freud has mentioned in his theory.
Your husband has a fixation with his sister. In his mind, his sister is an ideal woman. His mind refuses to accept you as an ideal woman. This requires careful approach. You should not react to his abuse or insults. You should never blame his sister for anything. Consider everything as normal and slowly try to distant his sister. May be when she is married she will go away. When he is away from his sister you will try to concentrate more in you and then you can get his love. He protects his sister unnecessarily and thinks that your being there is a threat to her. I hope they do not have any physical relation. Then is can be easily sorted out. You have to show more patience and tactics. You agitation will create more problem. He is in a position of weighing the values between you and his sister. It is your duty to show him that the relation of a sister has its limitations and time; beyond that it is the wife who is more important.
I think this will go away as soon as you get a child. Why don't you try for it?
2007-03-20 16:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by atom45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying with someone that all he does is treat you like garbage. You are allowing him to use like his doormat tell him this verbal abuse stops now or this marriage does. No man has the right to treat someone like this especially his wife this whole situation sounds weird
are you sure they are biological brother and sister if not
you could be looking at him having had a fling with her at one
point in time in the past it happens. They could be step bro/sis no matching parents allowing no guilt for sleeping together as teenagers. Putting that aside an all you need to set down some ground rules and start respecting yourself because allowing him to act this way towards you might as well be handing him a bat to whack you with verbal abuse is just as damaging to a marriage as physical and most will say it is worse physical abuse well the bruises fade but with verbal that is emotional abuse and takes alot longer for you to forget.
God Bless and I hope there is a way you can possibly get out of this situation my prayers are with you.
2007-03-20 16:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is somehtign wrong with your hubby and your sister this worngs things stinks i assure you. is there a history of incest in the fmaily finfd out and confrotn them both perhaps the only way for you to heal is for you to leave him. clearly his priorities are messed up big time.
2007-03-20 16:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one understands what is going on! Get the he!! out of there and fast! He is sick and needs some serious help!
2007-03-20 16:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THERE,
!.) He is abusive if Nothing else
2.) It sounds like hi is IN love with her..not Brother/siter type
2007-03-20 15:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gizoku 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weirdorama.
Was this going on before you were married? This guy has some serious issues. He needs to see a therapist.
2007-03-20 15:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
INCEST! You need to leave that nasty @ss bastard alone! He is obviously in love with his sister. That is so damn disgusting! You need to leave his behind and hire you a lawyer, and as for him he really needs to see a threapist. Calling his sister's name out in his sleep? That is so nasty!
Leave him, NOW!
2007-03-20 16:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called incest. Perhaps you should think about making some serious choices/changes in your life as you CANNOT make any choices/changes about their lives.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 16:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what your doing with that sick man, leave him as soon as possible, something very weird might be going on!
2007-03-21 16:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by AleOmar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋