My bf is constantly saying that I probably want someone els, cause he claims he is so small. I've told him over and over again that no he is not, no he doesnt need to change anything etc. If you have any ideas I would appreciate it.
2007-03-20 08:49:00 · 20 answers · asked by tarrgirl_4eva 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
We have been together for a little over 3 years, he is like 6.5 - 7.
2007-03-20 08:58:41 · update #1
Im not sure, but if I were you I would nicely explain to him that the way he degrades himself and constantly says those things is way more of a turn off than being small would ever be, even if he WAS small.
2007-03-20 08:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by bethany w 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy with a 7.5-8 and I always make my girlfriend tell me it's adequate by suggesting it's small or tiny compared to other guys. This is because I am insecure and need to know she is satisfied. He may be doing that. If he actually is smaller size he may really think that you have a problem with it, in which case:
-if you have been going out for a long time, he should believe you by now so you can just put your foot down
-if you are new to each other, then the key is to make him feel special (sexually). make yourself get off when he's really trying. then let him know how much better it was than most sex you get. mean it or he'll know.
2007-03-20 08:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Gentoo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not about you or what you want so dont let it get to you.
The truth of the matter is it is what he wants which is a bigger penis even though he is above average in size. I wonder if he doesnt have some latent homosexual desires deep inside of himself and that is why he cant move beyond it.
He has seen too many big ones and is now obssesed with a mans penis size.
2007-03-20 14:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be something that you are doing that is making him feeling insecure. But there some exercise he can do to make it bigger but he won't get anymore than 3 more inches tops. Maybe you should try a little reverse psycology on him. Why don't you just fake it like most women and make him feel like king ding-a-ling. May I ask if you are a women that doesn't move or make much noise during sex? He may be using that as measure of your satisfaction. And it could be that you are totally enjoying it and that's just the way you are but he isn't believing it.
2007-03-20 09:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by killab773 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's actually telling you he's over the relationship, and he's trying to give you a way out. Tell him you don't want to hear anything else about his size ever again, because you don't plan to play that game; and that if instead he has doubts about the relationship continuing, he is going the right way about ending it by continuing to talk about this.
2007-03-20 12:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. He has no self-confidence or esteem. Did you know that most guys can even be average (and that's 6") or a little bigger and still obsess that they are too small? You can joke with him and complain that he's going to leave you because you're breasts are too small (or too big.) I'd try it. It might make him understand how silly he's being.
2007-03-20 08:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't tell him over and over again that he isn't, he will never believe you if he thinks that he is. tell him it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. also get some books on tantra and show him positions to make the most of what he has. also i know this sounds weird but if you shave the shaft and have him trim the hair (not completely nude), he will look larger to himself and that may help his self esteem.
2007-03-20 08:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by whitney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bethany hit the nail on the head. He needs to grow up, real men don't obsess over their penis. He has the confidence that he can put a woman's O face on without even using his penis.
2007-03-20 10:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by Solo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give in. Tell him what he wants to hear. Tell him it is small and that you do want someone else. Once he picks his jaw off the floor. Tell him he needs to get over it. That you are happy with it and thats, that.
2007-03-20 08:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Neni 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should pay "it" more attention. Like, when you're watching the tube in your PJs, just play with it a bit. Give it more oral attention. Stroke it to wake him up. Rub your back side against it occasionally. Make more noise when he's boning you. If he keeps bitching, tell him to be a man or he's gone.
2007-03-20 09:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by klg2k2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋