how do you deal with negitive thoughts?

Question

I have negetive thoughts and I read posotive quotes and everytine I get one I snapp the rubber band I have on my wrist but I am out of ideas and the more I know the better off I am

Answer 1

Check out the links below, they are very helpful.


http://www.cb1.com/~john/thoughts/Negative-thoughts.html

http://www.pahealthsystems.com/archive376-2004-8-40874.html

Answer 2

I have a huge history of the exact problem, so I hope not to be too hypocritical. Luckily for me my best friend is the exact opposite and he constantly refutes everything I say and makes a good point. I am working on trying to clear negative thoughts but positive quotes & little punishments never helped me. Mostly I seem to be able to control when I get down to the root of where it came from and argue it back. "I am the worst at this" - why do you I feel this way - where did it come from - obviously I'm not really the worst at this - etc., etc., I also have just recently finished a course by The Pacific Institute. Their website is their name - www.thepacificinstitute.com I would highly recommend one of their courses that you work through on your own. I thought it was stupid & corny at first, but I found that I was causing most these thoughts & were able to control them when I practiced the techniques they teach. Helped my personally and professionally. Good Luck

Answer 3

Try out THE BOOK OF VIRTUES by William J. Bennett. There are also all kinds of little books with happy little sayings in them. Get one that offers "thoughts for the day", and read it every day. Then try to find a way to apply it to your life.

Sometimes, reading self-help books full of platitudes from other people make us feel worse, not better. They make us feel that we fall short in some way, just as looking at beautiful people in movies, magazines, etc. can make us feel less attractive. Try to improve your own life. Make a list of the things you'd like to change about yourself, and then change the things you can, and learn to live with the things that you can't.

The act of snapping a rubber band on your wrist sounds depressing and painful. Are you trying to punish yourself? The US Bill of Rights gives you permission to pursue your own happiness. It your right. So do it. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Allow your self the time to feel a bit negative, life is not at this point perfect. So there is NO need to feel the urgency to fake it , Pretend it is...
That is one of the contributing factors as to why people are so fake... Do you want fake people in your life or do you want those who can compliment you who you are? When one is down, that is when the other picks you UP in a sense and carries you through...
Cheer up, we all have days like yours...
What works for me is working out and letting the sweat pour from my body... It does wonders for me.... And it helps too , when you have real true blue people to surround you in your journey through life... It is a roller coaster for all of us. Some just pretend it is not... Best wishes to you........

Answer 5

When you're unhappy positive quotes seem to invalidate your real experiences. You can't wish yourself happy. Find something to do or something else to think about.

Answer 6

Consciously switch your thoughts to positive things, things you like and look forward to.
Keep busy and do enjoyable things that take concentration, thus occupying your thoughts.

Answer 7

Neither a pessimist nor an optimist be

that's why I stay in

REALITY.

Answer 8

Am going to agree with dtwladyhawk....
Reality works best,

Answer 9

just think positive