Myself and my partner have been trying in vain to fall pregnant for the past 18months, We are both in our early twenties and we have both seen our GP who assures us there is nothing medically wrong, we would really appriciate some help, thanks
2007-03-20 08:28:57 · 27 answers · asked by pipper1984 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Ok, well this is a very personal question, but what do you use for lubrication? Trying for a baby is sooo stressful sometimes you aren't really "in the mood" but you know you have to have sex because it's the right time of the month. Using KY or saliva is bad for sperm. My husband and I had a hard time getting pregnant. We found stuff called pre-seed which is a sperm-friendly lubricant. I also bought ovulation monitors to help assure me that I was ovulating. Here are two websites where you can buy pre-seed and inexpensive ovulation tests as well as pregnancy tests.
After we bought these things it only took two months and then we were pregnant. I now have two-year-old and we're trying for #2.
Anyway, I wish you lots of luck. Hopefully I'll see you soon posting questions on the "pregnancy" part of yahoo answers!
2007-03-20 08:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
The best thing to do is chart you cycles.
Simply take your temperature every morning when you wake up. It will rise when you ovulate and will stay higher until your next period (about 14 days later). Once released you egg remains viable for fertilisation for just 12-24 hours.
Also keep an eye on your mucus. it will become stretchy like egg white as you approach ovulation. Sperm can survive for up to 5 days in this most fertile mucus.
The Couple to Couple League run classes and have a great home study course if you want to learn more about charting and interpreting your fertility signs.
If you are trying to conceive it is recommended that you have intercourse every other day during the week before you ovulate and then for a day or two after.
Make sure you are taking pre-natal vitamins and Good Luck!
You could also try the Life Fertility programme if you are in the UK. They have had a lot of success helping couples lie you conceive.
2007-03-20 22:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by MrsC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i think your called unexplained infertility (there's no reason medically why your not getting pregnant. i reckon this would be so frustrating than actually knowing whats wrong.
there are still things that can be done, a try relaxing (easier said than done), try looking at both your diets eating the right things stopping smoking can all help and start taking a multivitamin.
there is stuff they can give you medically as well such as clomid, have you been seen by a proper geologist ? and had all the tests ? such as the ovary scan, the tubes scan, sperm test etc ? if so then go back to the gyno and push for something to be done either more tests or to be put on something like clomid.
to be honest i dont know much about unexplained infertility but i do have pcos and suspected endo I'd suggest going on the board and talking to some of the other women in your situation and seeing what sort of treatment, and things there doing http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?board=111.0
take care x
2007-03-21 04:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by doughnut1002001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can buy ovulation kits in quite a few ranges, and some are more advance than others. It depends on what money you want to spend.
You can get them over the net (just search your engine) or do live in the UK? You can buy them from boots.
Start tracking your periods, temperature, (it rises when you are about to ovulate and stays high until you have your period).
You can buy an ovulation test 'first response' over the net or in boots for about £20 you get 5 sticks plus a pregnancy test. What you do you pee on the stick around the time that you ovulate. The result will tell you if you are ovulating. Instructions are easy to read, and theres a guide to tell you when best to ovulate.
Take your temp also, and chart every thing, get a diary or something and write symptoms down also.
Good luck xx
2007-03-20 20:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like most of the people have said already it does usually happen when your more relaxed i know it feels like its never gonna happen and you feel natures trying to tell you something but honestly ive been there too it was absolutly heart breaking every month i would tell myself it has to be soon then only to have a period its soul destroying and my heart does go out to all the people that have been trying for a long time. It took me and my partner just over two years but i was'nt ever told by my gp that having a coil at first (did'nt get on with it) so then had the injections that it would take a year for my periods to return to normal. I was really angry that they forgot to tell me that bit so i had to wait. And when my partner and i went to the gps for tests it came back to my surprise that i don't ovulate every month so this too was not helping so i went on tablets to make me ovulate every month and only after going through hell and back with the waiting sex became a chore and made us both stressed to the point we nearly split up from the stress of it all it was only when i gave up on the idea of falling pregnant that i found out i was although it was an unbarable experience it was worth it to have a beautiful girl who now is nearly 3. there are so many old wives tales just be careful which ones you listnen to like putting your legs up in the air after sex totally kills the mood, not inviting for your partner to wanna do it knowing he wont be holding you afterwards instead you'll be busy trying to keep your legs up in the air not romantic but its totally up to you what method you use and as long as it works nothing really matters i guess and you don't have to have sex every night for it to work because that can stress you both out more it becomes a chore. I really hope it happens for you both real soon make sure your friends and family are'nt pressuring you either asking you all the time if its happened yet you really don't need that tell them to stop asking if they do i did less stress is what you both need and it will happen good luck and keep your chin up girl. xx hope ive been able to help xx
2007-03-21 02:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most doctors wont help until you've been trying for 2 years. (i must admit we bended the truth slightly, although we had not been using contraception for over 2 years, we were being careful, but like you we had been trying 'properly' for 18 months) we are now under a fertility specialist. I have been diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome and we're getting loads of test results (blood, smear and sperm......doesnt that sound lovely, lol) in about 2 weeks. ovulation tests are quite good so you can try in the most fertile part of your cycle. are you fit and healthy? do you smoke or drink? cutting back on all these things will help you. 18 months is still longer than the average, maybe go see another doctor. i hope nothing is wrong sweetie and you just havent been lucky yet. lots of babydust to you xx
2007-03-20 08:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my husband were 17 (me) and 19(husband) when we first started trying. we got medical advice wen after a year of not trying. after 2 years of movin from house to home we went back to the doctors and had another check up they did some rountine checks found out that my husbands sperm had normalities. andway they sent of a referal request. so wen i was 20 we decided to set a date to get married so trying to concieve was put on hold whilst we got the wedding out of the way. any way 4 weeks after getting married noticed my boobs looked bigger so took a pregnancy test and low and behold i now have a beautiful 15th month old son. my advice would be to relax and dont think about getting pregnant. if you struggle to do that then continue with seeing the doctor go back every 2 months, they may suggest ivf or iui etc. buy an ovulation testin kit i use ovutel saliva test, which tests your saliva for you most fertile days (we are trying for another atm) thats really the only advice i can give u im afraid. hope it helps
2007-03-20 08:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Michael T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the fertility awareness method (outlined in the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility.") I successfully avoided pregnancy for over a year using this method when I didn't want to get pregnant, and got pregnant the first month we wanted to try. Amazon.com or abebooks.com have good deals on the book and you can get a basal thermometer from Walmart or Target for $10-$12.
The woman does NOT have to lay on her back with her legs in the air, I played a few computer games after having sex for about 3 hours when I got pregnant this time. The excuse of gravity is ridiculous, it doesn't effect the way sperm swims.
2007-03-20 08:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, geting married doesnt help you concieve which is pretty clear. Even if some narrow minded people think it does!!!
Secondly i believe in not trying too hard as the added pressure makes it worse. go on holiday or for a weekend away and relax. I concieved twice on holiday (different pregnancies of course) when trying for a baby for more than 6months. i know that there are methods of alll kinds but relaxation and not trying too hard are the key. Its hard. But it works. There is no guarantee of course but give it a go.
good luck.
P.S. Dont think about what time of the month is best just do it when you want to.
2007-03-20 09:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by carinaburke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bought ovulation urine tests and pregnancy tests on ebay - cheap as chips and next day delivery - when you find out when ovulation occurs have the battle is won!
Also cut down on the old alcohol, smkoing and take plenty of exercise.
If you try for a couple of months whilst ovulating and nothing happens maybe go see your gp as there might be a medical problem with either of you.
all the best!
Sophia
2007-03-20 10:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋