I'm a bisexual female in a lesbian relationship. My girl is insecure and swears i could stray if the right man came along. i've never cheated or given her reasons to feel this way, yet she taunts me constantly
2007-03-20 08:20:24 · 15 answers · asked by nena consentida 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd be asking her if she's already done something with someone else, because if someone starts assuming their lover will go elsewhere, it's usually because they already know how easy it is to do themself. Either that, or suggest she seek some counsiling because her insecurities should NEVER be your problem! If she has them, you should request her to be fair to you, and accept responsiblity for her own feelings of insecurity & get some help. You think she's your everything right now, and she's chasing you away. If she wants to keep you, she'll find the help she needs, and stop making suggestions that you'll be unfaithful. Ask her if she thinks you have been unfaithful already. If she says no, then tell her her insecurity about your sexual orientation is her issue, and you have done nothing wrong. You're not planning on replacing her, but she could ruin the relationship by showing you she has such doubt in you when you have not been untrustworthy.
My EX-husband thought I was sleeping around on him when I was not. After years of these accusations, I was so heartbroken, and the relationship was so hopeless to me, I left. He never got over his insecurities & continued this horrible stuff for 9 years of marriage! He went to extreme extents to try to get me to admit to things I had not done! It was so painful to think that he actually believed I was capable of doing that! Eventually I didn't love him any more... I couldn't make myself, no matter how much I wanted to!
It's painful when the one you love thinks you're someone you're not! I really hope you can find a solution before it gets that bad! I feel for you!
2007-03-20 08:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by lisalikes70scheese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The notion that because you are bisexual you are more likely to cheat is just a stereotype applied to the bisexual community by both heterosexuals and homosexuals alike. Talk to your girlfriend and tell her how much it hurts you when she does this to you. She may not realize how much it bothers you or she may think she is being funny. If she cares about you, once she realizes that this bothers you she should stop. If she doesn't stop then get rid of her and move on, you don't need to deal with that in your life.
2007-03-20 15:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by J J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly what lidi said,
talk to her, But if she doesn't learn to trust you, then the relationship will fall. You sound like you care about her. SHOW her that you don't want this relationship to go under.
Take some time to make her feel like the most special girl in the world. Come on women know how to romance, romance her, to let her know how much you care.
Good Luck,
2007-03-20 15:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mabe she is just insecure. If you are going to be in a relationship with someone who is insecure, you have to constantly reassure them that you love them, and aren't going anywhere. It is hard to be with someone like that, but you have to help them to overcome their insecurities. Good luck.
2007-03-20 15:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by jjspike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. She's cheating. And pointing the finger at you. But while she's pointing at you there's three pointing back at her.
Don't bother yourself with this sort of thing relationships are voluntary. love should feed you not drain you.
2007-03-20 15:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably been hurt before, and is more than a little on guard. I guess all you do is keep showing her that you won't leave. Keep telling her that she's the one you want, and maybe she'll come around.
2007-03-20 15:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, and that in order for your relationship to work, there has to be trust. Tell her it hurts you that she doesn't trust you and that you understand that she doesn't want to lose you, but accusing you of this isn't going to make things better.
2007-03-20 15:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very jealous type, your GF.
You know that you are never going to change her mind no matter how hard you try.
You could try some counseling - for her.
2007-03-20 15:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds very insecure, just keep reassuring her, but don't give in to her, or she'll do it even more. and give her time. why ask her to go to couple counseling. good luck
2007-03-21 09:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all lesbians are like that girl. they are clingy and they are fast moving relationships. get used to it if your gonna date girls. know any single ones in KS? if so hit me up on my email :)
2007-03-20 17:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋