I just don't get it. There is absolutely no way in hell I would stay with someone that I knew was cheating on me. What are you people thinking????
2007-03-20 08:15:22 · 15 answers · asked by KoKo.Licious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In response to Topher and dadof...Im a 28 year old single mother of a beautiful baby 7 month old baby girl. I haven't seen or talked to my child's father in over a year. He is a compulsive liar and he has cheated on me. Once I found out what was going on I got rid of this guy immediately! I will not tolerate anyone going outside of our relationship. There is no excuse for it. I would never cheat on my man. Its called having morals and self control.
2007-03-21 04:08:26 · update #1
Topher is about as bitter as they come. And no, it doesn't happen to EVERYONE.....I wont cheat on my man EVER! I have what they call, "Morals and ethics"!
2007-03-20 09:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to say until it happens to you! Sometimes things in life happen to your marriage, stress of outside factors like money, work and even kids. When you have a family unit, you don't just walk away and break up the family because of cheating, you 1st try to work out your problems. Sometimes the relationship drifts apart in the midst of those factors and because of the way you are forced to confront all the issues in your relationship, things can actually be better than before the cheating happened.
2007-03-20 08:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by julie j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did trying to hold on to a family. I really believed he would stop. He lied and told me that I was crazy they were just friends. I believed in my vows. I took it for 37 years. When he started going with my sister that was enough. He even covered and lied about that for several years (friendship) They take all your self respect away!!! You do not believe you are worth anything or can do anything. Your self esteem is gone when you have been cheated on.
2007-03-20 09:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not made from a cookie cutter like you seem to believe they are. I don't condone extra marital sex in any way but I have seen so many of the people like the ones who are trying to address your questionmake the claim that "If He/She cheats on me, I'm gone!" Many of those same people are the ones who cheat on their spouse. I have never cheated on my spouse and hope I never do. I don't intend to cheat on her, but, I realize many times we allow ourselves to be in a compromising situation and it happens. My spouse made a mistake many years ago and although it was not easy, we made it through and are extremely in love with each other. So don't be so fast to paint yourself into a corner that you can't get out of. I could give you hundreds of examples of both men and women who have cheated but, made amends and made it through with the relationship intact. Trust can be thrown out the window but, it can also be earned back. As to why people try to stay together. Love, family, compassion, and understanding are some reasons. People need not be so quick to judge. I think it was Christ who said, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone".
2007-03-20 08:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all... How old are you?
Second... Do you have any kids?
These are both things you may want to take into consideration before you start saying that there is no way you would stay with them... Trust me on this... I was of the same opinion, back in the day, before it actually happened to me...
I wish it was as easy as just kicking some one to the curb... but it's not... and it has nothing to do with backbone... And for all that have not had to experience it, your time is coming, like it or not... it happens to everyone, it's just a matter of timing... or how smart your significant other is on not getting caught...
Good luck...
2007-03-20 08:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Topher 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because they feel like that person is their soulmate and that they were meant to be togehter. And they are so "blinded by love" that they can't see the truth that maybe it wasn't meant for them to be. And some people try to make up excuses for the one that is cheating and put it on stress or something else because they can't face reality.
2007-03-20 09:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the funny thing is I would leave my husband in a heartbeat if he cheated...but I allowed him to hit me...Its the mind frame your in...I dont believe in divorce...but the bible says the only right way to get a divorce is cheating.
2007-03-20 08:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it`s because they have formed a life together. If you have kids and a life together, there`s history. Love, 15 years of love might keep you from breaking apart.
2007-03-20 08:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear of the future, low self worth, they love him, they have children with him, they believe he will end it and come back. they may have seen it out of their parents and feel its normal. they want to stay in their home, as divorce might mean their home would get sold, and also they may be homemakers and not have employment.
2007-03-20 12:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have no self-esteem or respect. They are afraid of being single.
2007-03-20 08:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋