What are the signs your husband HAS cheated on you?

Question

Are there certain signs, I know most people don't want to believe it could happen to them and I just want to know what kind of signs there would be if my husband has cheated on me. He can be very sneaky and I have caught him in lies and I have always believed his explanations as they have seemed reasonable.

Answer 1

Unexpectedly late a lot.
Phone/email secrecy.
Showers right when he gets home.
Lack of sexual appetite.
Emotionally distant.
Womens panties in his brief case not the same size as yours.

Answer 2

Act like you believe him and stop asking questions. Then sit back and watch for the calls you are not to hear. Check his cell phone. Copy down the numbers , don't erase anything. Get a detective it is worth the money. Put a GP unit to track where he is going it will show you where he has been and how long he stayed. Watch where your money is going is he getting a lot of cash so you don't have a record of what he is doing with it. Look at the credit cards see if there is anything that is not normal. Does he get all dressed up to go out . Does he stay out longer and more frequently. Does he smell like perfume that is not yours? Just sit back keep your mouth shut and he will hang himself . You will catch him in one too many lies. If you know someone at his work you can trust (I mean trust ) ask them to give you an update on what is happening. Put a tape recorder in his car under the seat tht is voice activiated . Make sure you take it out each night after he goes to bed . Listen to it in private and see what you hear.
Gather all your information and go from there.

Answer 3

I hope for your sake that your husband isn't cheating on you. My ex cheated on me and I know how horrible that felt, nobody deserves to experience that.

There is no real way to determine if he has, without snooping on him i.e. going through credit cards receipts, cell phone call log, or phone or atm records.

However, if you've caught him lying before you could be right. However, if he gives you exscuses and you believe him, he will be difficult to catch.

As an example, my ex accused me of cheating on her all the time, and I got tired of it so I did. In order to meet this girl, I told my ex-that I lost my I.D. badge for work, and I had to go get another one. At the time I worked at SEA-TAC airport and I knew how lengthy the process is to get a badge and how much a replacement badge cost. We lived an hour from the airport so I factored all of that into how long I could be gone. So when there was 60 less dollars in our account she wasn't suprised. I withdrew the money from the atm so I wouldn't have to explain why a certain charge was on our card. As you can see its really easy to get away with. To this day she still has no idea.

Answer 4

For me - these were the signs we had major problems:

1. He wouldn't tell me where he was going.
2. We had a pager so people could get a hold of us - it was suddenly HIS.
3. He wouldn't tell me when he'd be home - In fact, I was told I didn't have the right to ask.
4. We were sleeping in the living room because the bedroom of the house we moved into needed the floor redone - he suddenly had no interest in it.
5. He would touch me - even if I initiated it, he'd push me away.
6. I found a note from a girl in his book bag (yes, I snooped - he was lying to me any time I'd ask if we had problems).
7. He wouldn't come home - it'd be anywhere between 3 am and 6 am!
8. The biggest tip was on my birthday (just a week before I left). He took me to dinner and then we laid together and watched a movie. Afterwards we started making love and he was doing things differently - like tickling me for foreplay. All things he'd never done before. Then, told me I'd be a "fun date."
9. Finally, people started seeing them together.

Answer 5

My ex-husband was extra nice to me, sent me flowers for no reason, bought me gifts very generous with me... cds, and clothes, perfume, gave me lots of sex all the time, at random moments. I thought I had the nicest husband in the world. I got suspious when I found a phone number with a girl's name on it. He said it was an old friend he ran into that he had not seen in a long time, but the name stuck in my head. Months later that same girl called at work, and we worked together, and I answered the phone, and he said it was the teller from the bank about a loan he had taken out. I put one and one together, and asked him are you having an affair?, and he admitted to me he was, very emotional moment for both of us. He told me, he was in love with two women, and he was crazy as he didn't want to loose me as he loved me so much, but he could not control his feelings and actions for the other girl. I almost died as it hurt that bad, he could not seeing her, and we broke up, time heals all wounds, and only a scar remains. It is very difficult, and I feel sad for any one who has to go through it.

Answer 6

I would assume if he has already lied to you about things, that is one of the signs. I've been in many relationships, but none of them involved either partner cheating so I'm not quite sure.

Answer 7

Well, my ex (who I wasn't married to, but have a child with) was just stupid. He would tell me he was out of town for work A LOT. He didn't want to sleep with me much, stuff like that. It was driving me crazy, because I had that feeling. So, I checked the messages on his cell...it was all there. His girlfriend called all the time!!! I called her number back & asked her. She told me everything. Then I started reading the credit card statements really well... I found out alot on those. He bought her alot of things.
If you've got that gut feeling, you might want to start really paying attention to what he's doing.
Good luck!

Answer 8

1.Turned off cell phone
2.Phone call forwarded to voice-mail
3.Doesn't let you give him a hickie on like his chest or some other part of the body
4.Calls you when he's on his way somewhere but doesn't call you when he's actually at the place he tells you he's at.
5.Call you when he's outside because supposedly where he's at is noisey or he doesn't get phone service.
6.Asking you whats wrong all the time
7.Coming home late
8.Telling you he's going to see someone he rarely talks about or visits

Answer 9

Most signs i have noticed throughout relationships can vary. Is he not as intimate as he used to be? Does he get UPSET if you catch him in a lie? Has he cheated on you or anybody else in the past... if thats the case, remember.. If your capable of doing it once, your capable of doing it again.

Answer 10

If he has been working late and when he comes home he smells like soap or colonge, you might want to start wondren.

If his car smells like sex or you find womens hair or womens clothing accessories jammed into the car seats or if the car seats, particularly the passenger seat is always adjustedin a way that is not normal.

Answer 11

Moody, one day he's in love with you the next he's comparing you to some one else.
Tells you constantly how GOOD YOU HAVE it being with him.
Takes his cell calls outside of the house or in private.
WORKS more then usual.
Accuses you of cheating.
Won't be intimate with you.
Sets his phone to lock.