my "girlfriend" whom we have been getting into arguments to the point where i said we needed time apart has started to question me about people i have dealt with and web pages with friends names. recently she is talking about her intuition and investigating me which i find disrespectful. Mind you she feels we are working on getting back on track but she is coming with this now. She has made me mad to the point i am like forget it. What do i do? p.s. when she was married and is on the verge of divorce cuz they are separated she was dipping with me.
2007-03-20 08:03:27 · 14 answers · asked by sean b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she doubts your faithfulness, then either you mistreated her in anyway, showed interest in other women, or she's simply not the One, and you're better off without her.
A relationship must be based on mutual trust, or else it won't work.
And btw, even if what she did was disrespectful toward her husband, you are partialy to blame since you consented to it, and chose to be with such a woman to begin with, and also it is disrespectful to share this (p.s. when she was married and is on the verge of divorce cuz they are separated she was dipping with me.) with us, cos at the end of the day she is your girlfriend and we are strangers.
I'm not agreeing with her, but lets be honest here, both have to take responsiblity for anything going on in this relationship.
It just seems to me, that if you did nothing wrong, and your girlfriend accused you of this, then she is simply not worth it, and you deserve better...
Good luck
2007-03-20 08:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting what you deserve. You were dipping with a married woman. So now you do not trust her and she does not trust you. You both deserve each other. Once a cheat always a cheat. You can never trust a cheat or a cheater.
You guys have made your bed on lies and now you have questions about your relationship. Both of you need to move on and learn to be faithful to a partner and do not go with married people (or seperated people) wait till the ink dries on the paper.
2007-03-20 08:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's cheating dude. There is a common phenomenon known as reverse cheating. It happens when the partner is cheating and subcontiously they feel guilty for cheating. The only way they can express this guilt is they begin to think you are cheating and they start accusing you of cheating.
This actually helps them overcome their gulit and be able to cheat without the guilty feelings.
Whenever your partner just starts accusing you of cheating out of the blue like this, it's a dead give away, they are doing something on the side.
2007-03-20 08:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two options. A) dump this chick, if she's getting you this mad then you have to ask yourself if its worth it, and believe me it isn't.
B) just go out and cheat on her. I mean hey if your going to be accused of it why not do it.
My ex was the same exact way. I chose the latter option, and to this day has no idea i did it. We finally got divorced after I caught her cheating with her H.S. f u c k buddy. Go figure.
But if I were you I'd dump this girl.
2007-03-20 08:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Amanda...She will probably do to you what she has done to her ex. She is now insecure when in the past she was the cheater or maybe is still the cheater. I think that you should move on and start fresh with a woman that is not married or dating someone else.
2007-03-20 08:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't trust you and you should move on. It cracks me up when cheaters get mad when cheated on or think they have been. She most likely will never trust you so whats the point of trying to have a relationship.
2007-03-20 08:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who is always going to question you? I say you need to take a permanent time apart from your girlfriend and find someone who can truly trust you.
2007-03-20 08:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just agree. Say "whatever" or "if you say so". This does 2 things:
1) Bugs the sh*t out of 'em, and
2) ends the argument
Sure it may end the relationship, but it also ends the drama that goes with it.
2007-03-20 08:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and this lady have too much dirty laundry. You bring out the worst in each other now and you're better off apart.
2007-03-20 08:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking at things like you are her. It's crazy how cheaters are constintly accusing there partners they are cheating.
2007-03-20 08:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋