My boyfriend purposed to me at the begining of Feb. We have only been together 9 months..So long engagment I want! LOL
But lately Im just so frustrated with some of ours problems - If we break up do I give him the ring...We have jokeingly talking about this - And he tells me to keep the ring since it wont be no good for him and he will leave with the TV....About a week after we got engaged we went out and I bought a newer/bigger TV for my place that he moved in with me...Im not tring to keep the ring, But I think its not right for him to think he gets the TV...
2007-03-20 08:00:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not want the ring if we break up...Im not wanting it....I bought the TV....
He is thinking cuz HE bought the ring and I bought the TV...It would be a switch - IF we broke up.....
2007-03-20 08:23:23 · update #1
Legally he gets the ring because it is part of the agreement to get married. If you dont get married he gets the ring back. What are you going to do with it anyway? Unless you are planning on selling it or melting it down and making something else out of it. As far as the tv goes who ever paid for it gets it. If you split the cost then you will have to work that out between the two of you.
2007-03-20 08:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That dear is why you don't live together before marriage. Too many people go through this wondering what to do when things don't work out. Before getting into battles sit down and think about things.
#1- If you are already having doubts and that many problems should you really be considering marriage?
#2 - Should you even be living together taking the chance that it will be harder to separate as time goes on?
#3 - What happens if an unplanned pregnancy comes into the picture, will things get more complicated?
#4 - What other material items are going to cause problems(CD collections, furniture, joint gifts for Christmas from others, kitchen items, etc.)?
#5 - What about other gifts that you have given each other - will you be returning those too or expect too?
You had both better decide what your plans for the future are before things progress much more. And you had better get to know each other quite a bit longer before making a lifetime commitment of marriage.
2007-03-20 08:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it is what you paid for you keep. What he paid for he keeps. If you both paid for it, sell it and split the money. In many states you could actually be required to follow the same statutes set for married people. It's called common law marriage and if you hav been living together for 6 months this applies to you. I am sure that this won't give me "the best answer" but, I'm not here for that. When you make a commitment to someone, you should realize that there are going to be rough times. You don't just throw in the towel when it's not all fun and party time. If you want to play grown up, you should do it right. I have read so many people talk like they were grown up and trying to give people advice when they don't know themselves what the answers are. Sorry to climb on my soap box. I'll call it a night now. Good luck.
2007-03-20 08:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He HAS to get the ring back, regardless of who breaks it off. The ring is not a gift in the general or normal sense; it is a symbol to serve a particular purpose. What the heck are you shacking up with him anyway for? You better get married quick and not have that long engagement, before you get preggers. The TV should be the least of your worries.... Sheesh!
2007-03-20 09:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He gets the ring back. If he doesn't want it, he can sell it to a pawn shop. The TV goes to whoever paid for it. If you split the cost, whoever keeps the TV should give the other person their money back. Or you could sell the TV and split the money.
2007-03-20 08:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tapioca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring should go back to him.
For the TV, it depends who paid for it. If it was a shared purchase, one of the two should pay off the other.
Assuming you didn't get engaged for a cheap TV...
2007-03-20 08:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you brake it off he get the ring but the funny things is your are not married and that means you bought the tv you keep the tv.
2007-03-20 09:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally if the woman break's the engagement then the woman should give the ring back..The ring is basically a promise to get married and if you break that promise then he deserves the ring back..Give him the ring back..And if you are worried about who get's a T.V. then you are not mature enough for marriage anyway so it is good that you called it off but atleast be adult enough to give the ring back to him..
2007-03-20 08:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An engagement ring is in lieu of a promsie of marriage,. No marriage, no ring.
A lady always should return the ring, as it will observe propper ettiquette and good manners. If he declines the ring, then is rightfully yours.
Good luck
2007-03-20 08:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he gets the ring back.....it was a ring "Promising" marriage...and if the marriage did not happen, the ring goes back to the giver.
2007-03-20 08:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋