I am 3 1/2 months pregnant, bu i have not told the father. I am starting to show, but i have been wearing baggy clothing to hide it. No one knows, but my best friend Michele. We have been together since we were in 5th grade, but I am afraid that he will leave me. Should i tell him?
2007-03-20 07:58:34 · 15 answers · asked by Trisha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should yes. But first you need to talk to your parents! Depending how old you are, and the money situation, and many other things that comes along with having a child, you need to find out if you want to keep this baby or give it up for adoption. If you want to keep it no matter what, Then the only thing you need to do is find out if your b/f is man enough to handle this situation and step up to the plate. Because if he doesnt you havent lost very much. There is plenty of men that will help you raise your child with you. If that man leaves you he will regret it later in life. Trust me. They all do. This would be different if you didnt want to tell him because he is a bad person but sounds like you are just worried that he will leave you. Trust me that is the least you need to worry about beccasue you will have plenty of friends and family that will be there for you. I know this. Your best friend and your mother is the only two people you need to worry about staying with you. Tell your parents first. Talk it out. Get the yelling over with. Dont keep waiting till its almost 9months. Then talk to your b/f. Talk to him last and stand for your decision!!!
2007-03-20 08:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you're both old enough and ready to face the next step in life, yes you should tell him. The pregnancy issue is not just about him. It's between the three of you (You, him and your future baby). If he leaves you because of the baby, then he's not the right guy for you. If he doesn't leave you,then I commend him for facing his responsibility to you and your baby. Either way, sooner or later, he's gonna know it. So, might as well let him know now and hope and pray for the best. Good luck!
2007-03-20 08:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by rad813 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong! If you're worried that he'll leave you, wouldn't you rather find that out now then when you're anymore closer to giving birth? You also need to tell your parents, immediately! I know you're probably scared, but you have to. If you're scared about their reaction, ask a trusted teacher to be there with you, or maybe the mom of your friend (if you're close).
It doesn't sound like you've really been dealing with this, it's time to start, it's not gonna just go away!
2007-03-20 08:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must not be a very good bf if you're afraid to tell him like this. What's the matter? Does he abuse you? If so you need to get out of that relationship. But telling your bf should be the first thing you do...no matter what the outcome would be. Are you seeing a doctor and taking vitamins. I'm 3 months preg. myself. My fiancee and I found out together, though. He didn't seem overwhelmed but also he wasn't upset. Do what you have to. tell your man, girl.
2007-03-20 08:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you still want the baby - and that you can really care for her - with our without your boyfriend. And you should talk with your parents about it (assuming you are still in high school - or even college). If you (and your family and boyfriend) can't support her, better decide as soon as possible whether to terminate this pregnancy or go all the way and get her adopted. Do it now, while you still have time for options.
2007-03-20 08:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Zachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but yes you need to tell him he has the right to know. I hope you have been to the doctor? You need to go to get everything you will need for that baby. You should remember what it was like when you found out and be gentle to him and tell nicely but remember he will be shocked. Good Luck
2007-03-20 08:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you need to do is see a DOCTOR, if the only person that knows is your best friend then i'm guessing you havent seen a doctor. you are putting your child at risk. yes you should tell the father, the child is also his. if he decides to leave you then it was bound to happen sooner or later and that is why they make child support laws anyways.
2007-03-20 08:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you honey
you really need to tell somebody other than just your best friend
if you really dont think your parents will take it well tell a school counsler or your best friends parents
you need to get the proper health care
there's a place in wichita called choices they will help you decide what to do and provide you with the proper health care for free if you cant afford it
find a place like that if you need to
2007-03-20 08:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by squeaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to tell someone else like your family and a Dr too. Prenatal care is important. If you are scared he is gonna leave then maybe you need to not be having sex with him. He has the right to know as a father. Its time to grow up and face the music.
2007-03-20 08:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by chellyk 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should know.. how would you feel if he kept a life changing secret from you? If you two have been together since the fifth grade then he shouldnt leave you... unless your in the sixth grade??
2007-03-20 08:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋