Okay - so go to a small college where many of the residents know each other. Since freshman year (junior now) I have noticed this amazingly hot guy giving me the ('checkin you out') eye everytime we walk by each other or spot each other in class. But I always just let it roll of my back because he's a football player, clearly not out, and I was never sure to begin with - I just didn't want to go down that road. Lately, I had noticed more and more we spot each other and I still catch him glancing at me. It was driving me nuts.
So, I went on this gay site online and searched the area and found a profile... I am 99% sure it's same guy. The look identical. The profile indicates the location, height, hair and eye color of the guy. ALL matches. I was shocked when I saw the profile.
However, we know of each other but we have no immediate connection. It would be tough to work my way into this kid's group of friends... but I almost want to ask - online or in person. What should I do?
2007-03-20 07:57:03 · 10 answers · asked by Duckman 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Jeez, you're in college not grade school. Next time you bump into him, introduce yourself. Ask him if he wants to have some coffee or something.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
2007-03-20 08:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Louie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you have an easy way out on this one...
Simply go back to the site where you saw his ad and describe not only yourself and vague location, but also only some small detail that only he would know and see if/when he responds. Obviously he has found a venue away from his clique and is willing to explore, BUT, you HAVE to be respectful of both his limits and of his discretionary caution's.
Football isn't forever, but it's a big part of his life right now !!
GOOD LUCK !!
2007-03-20 09:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by johnnyman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think first you should start to talk to him a little more. Get to know him, become his friend, and when the time is right you just ask him if he is gay. This way he'll tell you the truth if you guys are closer and you gain his trust. But if you just go up to him in person and straight out just ask him if he's gay or not, he'll most likely deny it. So, I don't suggest that. If you confront him online or in person about seeing him on the site, he'll probably just deny that too. So, just get to know him better, be his friend and then take things from there.
2007-03-20 08:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I make one greater attempt to speak even while this is awkward. and that i've got a tendency to be greater respectful than i'm with different females i'm no longer into. i might try it with the help of in keeping with risk status a splash nearer once you talk and in keeping with risk flirtatiously faucet his shoulder or touch in some way once you giggle or something. and then gauge his reaction. If he strikes away that may no longer as sturdy of an indication. yet all adult males are distinctive. merely attempt to coach which you're open.
2016-10-19 04:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the profile has a name, ask him if he knows who____is. Tell him you saw someone who looked like him. If he is a jock he will certainly be real careful about coming out but you could also send a message to the profile and see where he is located and tell him to wear a certain article of clothing in a certain color the next day and if he matches you will have your answer. Then you will know it is safe to contact him discretely
2007-03-20 08:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would reply to his profile and get to know him and find out about him some more and then you can arrange to meet him somewhere after one of your classes. It could be a real thrill for you to walk to where you are planning on meeting him, following him the whole way there. If you make it a coffee house or something like that you could even sit down and have a cup of coffee with him before letting him know you are the person that he is meeting.
2007-03-20 08:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You live and let live. He has the right to choose to be with who he wants to be with. Who and what he ism is his business. You aren't close enough to ask and with all due respect, would it be any of your busines anyway?
Be happy you found at now before you have any more time or emotion invested in this guy.
As for him looking at you, even gay men can appreciate an attractive female. Consider it a compliemnt and go on with your life and let him live his.
2007-03-20 08:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this quote-It's the sqeeky wheel that gets the oil. If you keep passing this person by, you'll keep passing him by and you'll never meet him. If he's too shy to say hello, then you say hello. If you are curious as to the sexuality of this person, then by all means, check him out for any clues. (conversation, clothing, actions, etc.) Otherwise, move on to the next one. IPersonally, I think you like the 'chase'....smile)
2007-03-20 08:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him on line, that way if he is not out he won't freak out on you in front of his football buddies. But you should also concider whether or not you are willing to be hidden away cause you like someone who is not comfortable with themselves and who they are. Is that a road you want to go down?
2007-03-20 08:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a touchy subject,
Get to know him better on a friendship level, and that way, you can also start a good friendship wich is the foundation of any relationship.
Good Luck
2007-03-20 08:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋