Sex and Married Men?

Question

I am a 26 year old man, and I am married. I love my wife with all my heart. Moreover, she was my first and so for my last. However, at my age I need sex at least four to five times a week. My wife on the other hand, she could careless. My question is, do women understand the need of a man to have sex, do they realy know that for us it is one of the reasons we get up in the moring and go to work. Yes, we as men may never understand the true complexity of a woman, but can a women realize that as man that is married, that my ego is directly tied to the sex she and I share. Will women see at some point that, yes I would be confident if I was on my own, but with her giving me all I need, I can be much more. I love women, and I desire to learn as much as I can from them. However, women need to understand that to provide for them money or emotional, that a man needs to penetrate their minds, and bodies, more than a few times a month.

Look my wife and I have been married for 3 1/2yrs. We have known each other since November of 01. My wife is not a talker, and she nor anyone I believe is an expert at communication. However, she is the only women I would want to have a gen connected with mine tor form a child. She is a great women, and I am a great man. However, as many men I have a high sex drive. I am confident in who I am, but my wife loving and being intimate with me makes me feel that much more better. Women, and some men may not understand that. Her ability to make me feel like a King does more for me than me bringing home the bacon. Her stroking me helps me foucs on the things I need to make our life better. Mind you I make sure she gets her's before I get mine. I put her first in all I do, that is because adore her. She is my Queen and no other women will ever get to that place with me. All I am wonder is do women understand that men need sex not to live or just for ego, but it a makes a man feel good.

Answer 1

I read your question . As a married man for the last 17 years I see a few things in this questions that glares at me.

One we man want sex 4 to 5 times a week. We don't die If we don't get that much. so you don't need it. Two. It looks as if you are using sex to fill some sort of void in your life.
My ego is not tied to how much sex I get from my wife. Most men don't tie their egos to how much sex they get from their wives.

I don't think that you are emotionally mature enough to be married and you need to seek counseling to deal with a deeper underlining problem.

Answer 2

Talk to about how you feel, but I suggest you don't use the words "I NEED SEX" because you made it seem like you can't live/ breathe without it. Sure you're a man but the truth is that you really CAN get up in the morning without it. Women will never understand or believe that excuse a man makes, it is too rediculous. But on the other hand, I as a woman, know that I have to keep my man happy, It is my way of knowing he won't cheat on me you know. Women and men are too opposite to ever understand each other, but talking to her will deffinetly help. WOMEN love to talk! Also make sure you are treating her good, doing stuff around the house etc. because if she is annoyed or upset with u I garante yoy won't be getting any from her! Good luck!

Answer 3

Look, first of all, sex is not a need. You might think it is, but will you die in a week if you do not get it? NO! Therefore it is not a need. However, talk to your wife about it and get her side of it. Do you have children? Does she work full time? Perhaps she wants it too, but she is too tired and sleep is her need right now and not sex. If you are basing your ego on your sex life, then perhaps you need to do some self analysis and put your priorities in order. Ask your wife if there is a problem with your sex life, something that she is not comfortable about. Until you know the reason why she is not as interested as you, then you can't solve the problem. And no it does not have anything to do with male or female. I know women that jump their husbands every chance they get. Maybe you need to spice up your sex life, make it more interesting, if your wife will go for it. Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Women are very selfish in this way, especially Amercan women.
A man has the responsibility of taking care of his wife and the security of their home and the promise of never drifting away to have a quicky with another woman.

Yet women who marry, have gotte in their minds that somehow, their sexual obligation to their husbands is void after they have been married. Here's what I say.

Women, I don't give a damn if you have no care for sex in the least bit, your obligation and duty to your husbands is to give them sex. For all I care you can read a book, watch TV, whatever you want to do while I'm doing it but you need to live up to your vows. If you can't or you won't do that, then as a man... I WILL GET IT somewhere else and have no guilt whatsoever. That's just the way it is.
You sound like a young fool of a school boy!
You do not understand the ways of women and you're too old to start learning now.
You are pussie whipped, don't be pussie whipped...whoop that pussie! BANG, BANG, BANG, BANG, BANG!

Answer 5

Ok, first off we are missing a few details here, you could help us out by telling us answerers how long you have been with her; if you use to have sex more frequently than you do now; if you have kids; and so on. Its funny, you direct your line of reasoning to all women, but in fact the only one that matters is your wife. She is what you should be concerned about and what your going to do to get her to be as enthusiastic about sex as you are. Make it about her...... Have you ever asked her what her fantasies are? Are they obtainable? Make her feel sexy, then maybe she will care. Everyone wants to be wanted. Perhaps she does not feel that you want her enough. She could be self conscious about her body. At any rate this is something that you need to discuss openly with your wife. If you have a good relationship with her there should be no reason why she wouldnt want to work this out. If this is so important to you, then it should be to her to.

Answer 6

The way you phrase your question and disclose information about yourself concerns me. You said that your wife was the first and last 'so far' which indicates you plan to look outside the marriage for sex. She may sense of lack of loyalty. It's important that a man make his wife feel that she is the most important person in his life and that she is loved. You would have been well suited to remain a life long bachelor so you 'could learn about women' but unfortunately you made another choice. Now, it's just a matter of your character and whether you plan to hold up your end of the bargain. You need to talk to someone who knows you well....perhaps there are other issues brewing. You seem to have a sexist attitude. Women today provide for their own emotional and financial needs---it's not 1920. Grow up.

Answer 7

You seem to be under the impression that men and women are so very different in their sexual needs. Being a woman, married and attractive, I can tell you that nearly everyone's ego is attached to sex in some way. We all get hurt when our partner doesn't want us when we want them. My husband of 1-1/2 yrs is always telling me "tomorrow" but tomorrow never comes, that is unless he is horny. It hurts even more when I get hit on by co-workers and strangers, but not my husband. He knows me inside and out, others only want to unwrap the package. So maybe a few times a month isn't as bad as you might think. Try having to settle for two or three times a year.

Answer 8

but men need to understand what women do. You may provide for us but we provide equally. Then come home and take care of the kids. Run where the kids need to go and then still cook up dinner. Women need time alone. A nice bubble bath, candle lite, peace and quite. No screaming kids in the background no men saying hay i need this and that.

If men gave women a little maybe some of us would be more than willing to give out more than twice a month or so.

Answer 9

If you wife is in her mid 20s and doesn't want it as much as you, there is definitely something wrong there. Are you sure you are getting her off during sex? Some women need a lot of "simulation" to get off so they don't really enjoy it if they are with a guy who can't/won't get the job done. I would look in the mirror and work on being a better lover so that she will want you.

Answer 10

I would say that no, women do not realize how important sex is to men. For all our moaning and complaining about how men won't open up to us, we are not very good at listening to them. Most guys express their love for sex but we still don't seem to 'get' it..... guys are simple. We are so focused on reading into every word or action that we often don't hear what they said.

Sit down and talk to her about it.....I will say that foreplay starts long before you get to the bedroom. As much as women don't understand how important sex is to men, the men do not seem to grasp that women don't want to go near you if they are angry. Guys can fight and still have sex even though the fight isn't over and I think women are different. My ex used to say I withheld sex as a tool - that was a load of crap. He treated me badly and so I never wanted to see him let alone make love.

Just recognize that as much as women misunderstand men, men misunderstand women too :-)