Im pregnant, and im afraid to tell my mom. What would you do if you were in this situation as the mother? Any other advice?
2007-03-20 07:36:55 · 30 answers · asked by Trisha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well you need to tell her. I was 19 and pregnant and I was so scared to tell my parents, I didn't tell them until I was 5 months. I remember the amount of stress I was under just thinking about the discussion I would have with them. You should just get it over with- instead of dwelling on it. I'm sure she won't be happy about it but she is your mother and eventually she will understand. My parents were very angry at me, but after a while we talked and got over it, and once that baby came they couldn't have been happier!!! Good luck-- I'm sure everything will be ok. :)
2007-03-20 07:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by kez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trisha,
I was once in your shoes at the age of 16. Now, I am 27 years old.
This was the hardest thing for me to do was to tell my mom that I was pregnant.
I finally had to tell her, because other people were finding out, and I knew that it would be much worse if she heard it from someone else.
I cried when I told my mom. At first she was calm, until she went to sleep and woke up. She was going crazy. That quickly came to an end.
Just be prepared that this is something that your mom is not expecting. Parents have high expectations of their kids, and she will feel like a failure.
Ensure your mom, that you will still follow your dreams even though you have made a mistake.
Also, bring over the boy as well to talk to your mom because you didn't get yourself pregnant.
And the sooner you tell her, you all will have time to weigh out all of the options that you all have.
I wish you the best....and you are free to e-mail me if you need any further advice. God Bless You and your child.
2007-03-20 07:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your mom. I had my first baby on my 16th birthday! I never told my mom until everyone had already guessed. I started saving so did the dad. My mom was so mad she took herself out of the picture. So i was on my own, which really sucked when the dad left. I gave birth with my best friend's there, no family. If i had told my mom sooner she would of been there.
My daughter and i ended up living in a hotel and i was working there. I did any loose jobs and got a room, and a meal a day. The lady was really nice but if i had told my mom Cloie, my daughter, and i would have had a easier begging.
Your still going to have to get an education and that thing but don't have an abortion. I considered giving my baby up for adoption, actually that was the plan until i held her, i couldn't even think of not being able to see her. When your baby says mommy for the first time, or opens her eyes and focuses on you, your heart will melt and you'll want that baby to be yours, forever.
Do what you think is best, no one else!!
Now I'm married with 2 more children.Hopefully another, soon!
Best of luck!
2007-03-24 04:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you about what I went through as the daughter...
When i got pregnant in HS I tried to keep it a secret from my parents. I was terrified of how they would react. My mom asked me one day what was going on and I've never been able to lie to her, so I told her. She hugged me and let me know she loved me even if it wasn't what she wanted for me at such a young age. She told my dad for me because I was more afraid of him. When I got home after she had told him, he went through a long lecture about responsibilities and then took me grocery shopping to make sure there was plenty of healthy food in the house.
Remember, parents only want what's best for you and if they get upset, it's because they are afraid of what this will mean for your future.
I have a 10 year old daughter now and I am teaching her all about the birds and the bees and letting her know that abstinence is what I expect from her, but I'm also building a trust relationship where she can talk to me about all things sex. If she got pregnant in 5 years, I would be very upset, but I'd still love her and do everything in my power to help her take care of the baby and finish school as well as go to college.
2007-03-20 08:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all I'd probably go quiet and then say something inappropriate like
'Oh you silly silly stupid girl' and THEN I'd say something equally as idiotic like
'How did that happen?'.
I'd want to know who's it was, how far along you are and are you alright-and what does the father think about this, and does he even know and be muttering things like 'what IS your father going to say'.
I'd be disappointed because I wanted you to have a wonderful care free childhood and get a fantastic education and have kids when you were married (or at least older) but be SO PROUD that you'd come to me and told me at the same time.
You'd probably get hugged as tightly as humanly possible inbetween being held at arms length with me rambling incessently about responsibility and well what do you want to do now-with a million and one things rattling around my brain and attempting to all come out at the same time.
The important thing though, the MOST important thing, would be that you are OK and that you've told me and we'd sort things out-however you wanted to because YOU would still be what you were before you said you were pregnant-MY BABY.
Tell your Mum. There's a good chance she'll be cross-she may even shout a lot but she'll calm down and she'll love and support you regardless of how it might seem initially.
She'll probably be relieved to know what's going on with you because I'm telling you as a Mum that we have a sixth sense for something going on that we're not being told about.
Try and remember that Mums are human too-and I wouldn't mind betting that yours will be a lot less of a lunatic than I would be-I've got 13yrs before my little girl gets to 15-so I'll have had time to work on my reactions by then.
Hope this helps if only in a little way.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 08:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just the same any other mom would...no matter what, you are your mothers daughter and she will love you always and forever. if i were a mom and my fifteen year old daughter came to me and said, hey guess what i'm pregnant, inside i would flip out a little (after all that's a scary situation to be in, hell it scared the hell outta us when i was 20 and pregnant....i digress) but nevertheless the only thing to do is work through the situation. you guys have some decisions to make, your mom is not going to disown you for making a mistake. she may be upset, she may yell, she may cry, but in the end she is not going to throw you out of the house. and just so you know, more than likely they already suspect it....i went to go see my mom and stepdad last month in nevada, and turns out i didn't get my period like i was supposed to, i told my mom hey i think i'm pregnant (again) and it was no surprise to her...they both already suspected it (no i'm not pregnant, turns out the altitude was screwing with my body) anyway, if i were a mom in this situation, the only thing to do would be to talk through the situation, make decisions your mom will always love you and guess what, if you have the baby and keep it your mom will love her grandbaby just as much. so good luck, i hope it all works out for you!
2007-03-20 08:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by tallyg_8 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction would be shock and hurt. WE would have real good talk. But after the fact, what is done is done, it would be too late to change anything now. I would support my daughter any way I could and expect her to finish school. By all means, the baby would not be given up for adoption or aborted. I would aid in raising him/her, after all, it would be my own flesh and blood,but it would still be my daughter's child. It wouldn't be easy, but some how we would make it work. To tell the truth my daughter telling me she is pregnant would be a lot easier than telling me she is on drugs or selling drugs. You can love a baby, you can't love drugs. I have a daughter, so I have given this subject a lot of thought. It is easy to say you would half kill her, but then there is reality. You need to tell her soon so that you can get into the doctor for a check up to make sure everything is alright with you and the baby. Don't take chances, talk to your mom. No one loves you more than your mom and dad.
2007-03-20 07:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old little girl. I love her with all my heart. If she got pregnant at 15 I would be dissapointed in her but I would unconditionally love her and listen to her. I want to say that would never happen but then I would be unrealistic. That is why I hopefully will keep a good relationship with her and hope we have the lines of communication open to prevent this before it happened. If it does happen we will deal with it and I will be a very young grama.
2007-03-20 07:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid honey. It will all work out. You should do what is best for you . Do not allow anyone to talk you into getting an abortion. This is a decision that you will have to live with no one else. I have read a statistic that around 30 percent of women that get abortions end up in mental institutions and another 25 percent or so need lifetime counseling. I believe in the woman's right to chose but please make sure you do what is right for you and not what is right for someone else.
You will have a beautiful baby that will love you unconditionally!!
2007-03-20 07:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mandie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 14 and was scared to death to tell my mom and dad. I finally did and it did work out okay, yea they were pretty upset at the time but I'm 37 years old now and my son is 23. I went to school, worked hard got myself a good education and took care of my son. My son and I are very close and we have a great relationship. I know you are afraid to tell your Mom but tell her so you and her can talk things through and find out what you want to do. There are so many options for you. Don't wait tell her now, of course she is going to be upset but you will work this out have faith in your Mom.
I wish you the best, I know how you feel, but It will work out.
2007-03-20 07:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋