my father n law says that he will not wanted to have anything to do with my children if they grow up and date out of our race or become gay.I have no problem with this as long as they are
happy and
the other person treats them with respect and love
Does anybody else deal with these issue from older family members who are from a different time
2007-03-20 07:17:29 · 24 answers · asked by superwomen 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I would support them no matter who they choose to be with as long as they are treated with respect and love. On the same hand I would grieve just a little knowing how cruel people of this world can be and even here in yahoo I have cringed at the hateful and mean things said to some. It would hurt me the same as when my child falls off her bike or is made fun of. I would hurt because they are hurting. I would love them no matter what and hope that my love and the love of my family would be enough to erase any pain caused by an intolerant and ignorant world.
2007-03-20 15:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Petra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care I don't want to be what i hate most hypocritical I think it's so wrong if you disown your children if They're gay or straight an date people from another race,just as long as there happy and that person treats them right .
2007-03-20 11:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a son who is gay, another one who dates a black girl.....and I say, to each his own. If they are happy and their partner is a good person, why worry about it?
My father has passed away, but yes, he would have disowned them...and it would have been HIS loss.
My elderly mother always talked big about doing the same thing....now she's realized that's not as easy a thing to do as she thought....so she has just learned to accept things the way they are.
Don't worry about your father-in-law...if he wants to feel that way, he's the one who will lose out.
2007-03-20 09:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been banished from my parents. And I love them still, but I am all the better for it. My opinion is, that you must do what you feel is right, Do not allow anger to comsume your familly you must lead in this area. If dad doens't want to be apart of your familly then so be it. But always show him that he's welcome to rejoin when ever he's ready. Don't argue with him you will loose. As for the rest of the familly simplify your feelings and don't show your disappointment with anger this will just feed the fire.
I hope your dad will snap out of it, He believes what he believes for a reason, you may not be able to compete with ages of wrongful knowledge.
Purebreeds in any life force, is not as wise a choice as was once taught.
2007-03-20 07:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ooh wee! A tippy-toe-type question. (smile) I have always taught my child what I believed to be right - and that is - GOD'S LOVE FOR PEOPLE IS ALWAYS RIGHT. God's love for sin is never right. He does not love sin - no matter how we dress it up and make it look pretty. Therefore, I have taught her she must make up her own mind, but she should make it up using the WORD OF GOD as her ruler and not people. Love does not have a color. Love is not gay or straight. A truly wise person who is in love with God and wants to walk right according to the principals and direction that Jesus gave us - will always be right.
2007-03-20 07:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. All you can do is teach your children to be honest, open, accepting human beings. Teach them, not to look at color of skin, but to look at the lifestyle of the person. Is it healthy? Self destructive? Does the person appear to have a purpose in life? Does he do unto others as he would have them do unto him/her.? With our high speed technology and the international links in communication and transportation, we will soon have a totally mixed global community. However, it will take awhile for the old, homogenous ideas to die out.
2007-03-20 07:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by kathy s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've known people with issues like this. doesn't bother me though.
gender is an issue here- lesbians more accepted than gays.
men dating women from another race is also more accepted that when a female does it.
2007-03-20 09:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i must say i hav 5 and they date out of their race and i am proud of them bcause i know they are apart of Gods plan for all his children to come together as one,also 7 or 8 mixed grands and i look at them and know this is Gods plan and i am the biggest part of them all because i taught unity
2007-03-20 07:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would I feel? For me, this isn't an issue. As for older family members, sure...they've had to put in their ten eggs...it's their opinion and one I don't value.
If they want to be narrow minded enough to dismiss any of my children or any family member for that matter because of their sexual orientation or because they fell in love with someone not of our "race" then, it's their loss...not my childrens and not mine.
2007-03-20 07:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I want my son to be happy,if this means dating someone from another race or of the same sex,then I would be happy for him.I gave him life and I guide him but eventually I have to hand his life over to him and let him live it.
2007-03-20 07:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by the dreamy blonde 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋