i go to bible college and several of my friends are getting engaged as freshman. do you think that 18 is too young or do you think that age doesn't matter? does how long the couple have been dating effect that?
2007-03-20 07:15:42 · 32 answers · asked by Carly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are madly in love and i've dated before and i'm sure he's the one. God put us together on a mission trip
he has a very stable job where he makes more than enough to support us both
we are truly deticated to our realtionship and divorce is not an option.
he's older and i'm mature for my age
we are not doing it for sexual reasons, we simply want to for the same reasons other people get married such as to grow together and deepen or relationship
2007-03-20 07:42:14 · update #1
also there would be a couple year engagement because of school and work, it would take me awhile to plam the wedding
2007-03-20 07:43:50 · update #2
I was 24 and my wife was 18 when we met. I proposed on our first date and a month later we got married. 19 years and 7 children later, we are more in love than we were then.
No it is not too young but, everyone is different. some people are more mature and ready to make the commitment that marriage requires and work at making it successful. Unfortunately, too many people have already doomed their marriage when they approach it with the attitude that if it doesn't work, we'll get a divorce. I have seen people who are over 30 who are too immature to be married and I've seen young people who are committed to making it work. The bottom line is as long as you are of the legal age and the right mind and heart, age is not a factor.
2007-03-20 07:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For other people, no. I personally would not have gotten married that young based off of the fact that not being commited to any thing allows you to be able to take opportunities which would not normally be available if you were in a commited relationship. Why spend the early years of your life tied down when so much is available? Sure if a couple has been dating for a while that will effect a marriage. Some times people who have long engagements get complacement when they actually get married. They think that once they are in wedlock the work is over, no more effort need be put into the marriage. That is a big misconception and should be avoided at all costs. The bottem line is people will do whatever they want to, regardless of what others think.
2007-03-20 07:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 18 is definitely too young to get married. In your 20s is when you find yourself and become more stable when making decisions. 18 year olds are usually not financially stable or mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage.
Being that you attend a Bible college, I would guess that most of your friends are considering marriage at such a young age to avoid fornication...which is the wrong reason to get married. Sounds like they are engaged to get a divorce!
2007-03-20 07:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Fireanddesir 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a young age for marriage. you're still young, live life and get married when you feel ready not when you see other doing that.
My cousin got married at 20 and she quit college. Now, after 3 years, she doesn't look so happy, neither does her husband, who was 26 when they got married.
Besides, when we're talking about marriage as a serious thing, you should think of all the details, like where will you be living, who will be working, (the husband, or both) after how many years you'd like to have children and how many, and does the woman have to quit her job and be a stay-at-home mom, or should the couple get a nanny?!!
Don't get caught in the moment and think, hey i want to get married even if i had to stay with my parents. which brings us to another subject: Don't live in the same house as your parents in law.
Every couple are entitled to have their own house, their own privacy...
It's your decision. Choose wisely, Don't rush things. Don't go with the flow. PLAN.
Last but not least, we can't deny that some of the marriages where the couple are young happen to be successful but it's a small percentage.
You don't want to grow old and think: hey, life passed me by, i should have travel and enjoy my life when i was young. Youth comes once, enjoy it. You'll get married, you'll have children. Take few years to live, then go into that golden prison...
2007-03-20 07:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, I can say yes, 18 is too young. I thought I was going to be married for the rest of my life, but as I grew older I realized I didn't even know what love was. We divorced after 5 years and a baby. In my case anyway, being married was a romantic fantasy, live happily everafter kind of thing, the reality was much different. Please think about it before you get married at 18.
2007-03-20 08:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by catfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying age is a weird topic altogether. Obviously it's not too young because it's legal. It all depends on the maturity of the couple. If the parents are also in support of it, then no it's not to young. I was 20, and I have many friends who were married between 18-21. It just varies from couple to couple.
2007-03-20 07:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got married at 18, it lasted 7 years before my husband decided he missed out on the college life and startted to go to clubs and cheat...we had a son who was barely a year old when he did this. It ended in divorce.
At 18 you think you know it all and what you want, but looking back now I wished I had waited and experienced more before getting married I can never go back and relieve those years.
2007-03-20 07:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. But only because I was married at the age of 17. My husband and I dated for 3 years before we were married and know part of me wishes that I would have waited a little longer. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and would do anything for him but I wished we would have waited at least a few more years.
2007-03-20 07:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know a lot of people that get married and I think it is just asking for a disaster in the long run. They need to be a grow up before they can get married.
2007-03-20 07:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have some fun . Date several people before you settle down.
Sow your wild oates now. Don't get married until you are over 27 years old. Enjoy life while you are young and free. Don't limit yourself to what is out in the world. Bible college is great and you have a good Christian base, but take your time to find your true love and your true calling in this world.
2007-03-20 07:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋