me and the bf have a baby together. I want to leave, with the baby of course. I've left in the past but always came back. The only place me and baby have to go is the reservation where there's nothing but drunks and drug addicts except for a few family members but drunks live with them as well. I really don't want baby to live there. my bf wouldn't let me take baby anyways but it's just so bad between us. I've tried and tried to make it good but it just wont. Anyone have any suggestions of what i should do?
2007-03-20 07:12:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is there anyone else who you can leave with, outside of the reservation? I think you should make a plan, get some help, so that you get on your feet, find childcare and move on. I don't know where you live, but there are women's shelters that help you get prepared to be on your own with the baby. There are also programs that can help you get job training, child care, and support so that you can find a job to support yourself and your baby.
When you decide to do this, don't go back to him, things will only get worse because he will become angry and resentful. Best of luck to you, I know it is a difficult thing, and a huge step, but it will ensure your and your baby's well being.
2007-03-20 07:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a plan and make it fast. There are thousands of women who are single mothers and they get by. You can do that too and you can be successful. You have a child now and you are the mother and you have to take charge of your life. That child needs love and to be provided for. No child should grow up in a hostile enviornment. Do whatever it is that you can do to be civil with that man even if you cant get along- Don't argue with him. Stay there as long as you can - find a babysitter get on your feet. Save some money. Save for an apartment or even look into womens programs that will help you get on your feet. When you have a plan together speak to your boyfriend, let him know the truth, be civil! Find out if he will help you, because after all you are the mother of his child, he does have to pay child support. If he is not willing to work with you, then you can go to court and they will make him pay. But don't feel that you have no future. You need to work your tail off right now and do the best you can to provide for that child. You can do it and you will do it with motivation. Even if you can't look to family or friend for support, there are people who can help. Just do some research and im sure you will find the resources necessary to gain some assistance. Good Luck and don't ever give up. Be strong for that baby!
2007-03-20 07:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by lyndsyherard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get a job and earn enough money to rent an apartment or a house that is away from all drug addicts and alcoholics, my mom accidentally had to live with an alcoholic and he ended up destroying my little sister's life forever, my suggestion to you is to get away and stay away. There is no reason why he can treat you that way. Find someone new. Good Luck.
2007-03-20 07:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any friends that live off-res that would have room for you and the baby? Girl, you have to get out of that situation and never ever go back!!! Do whatever you need to but remember it's not just you that you need to think about, there's an innocent child in the equation.
2007-03-20 07:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only letting you comprehend your no longer on my own. I instructed mine he ought to in basic terms write me a notice or some thing. We artwork night shifts and granted we sleep all day yet I have been given up and have been given him presents and that i've got been given no longer something. no longer even a hug. If I question his love he gets mad, says im the single etc.... I cope with him so good on a each and on a daily basis foundation. and that i asked for one concern, a card. you will desire to think of of howguys justify each little thing else, by ability of being lazy. they do no longer care until eventually they locate it important. your guy doesnt locate it important and the two does mine. and that they are lazy. no longer all men are yet our men are! you will possibly think of in the event that they actually cared they'd suck it up for 5 seconds and say some thing candy, possibly a hug, run a warm tub?? Thats why valentines day is "concentrated on women persons" reason have been the only ones extremely worth a F.
2016-10-01 05:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... im not a girl but...
i think you should understand... just why is he like that... does he like being mean??? well try thinking whats best for the child... growing up with a mean dad? or growing up with drunkards, addicts, and have no daddy to call upon?
put it this way... youre talkng with him... having plans for tommorow... then planning for the babys future... well if that doesnt happen... to hell!!! LEAVE!!!
stop struggling for those dickheads... for your baby needs attention... love.... comfort... and more...
just dont do it alone... find someone else... that will accept you for who you are and love you and your child... and settle with your life...
2007-03-20 07:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by zhieth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if u r in any danger or think ur child might be, you need to leave a.s.a.p. Would you rather have your child think it's ok for a man to be mean to his wife( somebody who he's supposed to love and respect) Hopefully you figure this out :)
2007-03-20 07:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by esmrlda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out, get a job, get a place to live, its not good for the baby
2007-03-20 07:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by ashley G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek help from a women center good luck
2007-03-20 07:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by GrassRootsRabbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him for gods sake your the woman your the boss! you get to decide if the gets laid of not! grow a back bone!
2007-03-20 07:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋