He is 19, at University, has a very hard working nature and studies religiously at exam time. This makes me feel left out as when he has exams coming up he locks himself up at home and I barely see him until exams are over, I don't speak to him over the phone as much either. We are planning on moving in together in August, and he has said to me that he will probably not change his revision schedule. He always says that 'exams have to come first'. I try to be patient and understanding, and this isn't anything that would break us up as I'll be with him through thick and thin, but what can I do to help the situation and make him prioritise me?
2007-03-20 07:12:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, thanks for the advice every1. Some of it was a little harshly put (!) but sometimes you can't see yourself when your being selfish so it was a bit of a wakeup call.
2007-03-20 07:42:46 · update #1
Stop being selfish, geez who would want to move in with someone like you???
2007-03-20 07:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find something to occupy your time during exams. Your boyfriend is under a lot of stress during this time and he doesn't need you nagging him. I went to college and took those same exams, it's not a game it is hard work. In the long run you will both profit from his exam routine, be patient and give him the space he needs. College is hard and you should be happy to step back and let him study. It is for a betterment of his and your future.
2007-03-20 07:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to find a hobby instead of trying to pull him away from his much needed studying? Find something that interests you so you won't feel so alone during exam times. Then when he is finished you'll have more to share with him. Don't you have friends that you can spend time with? Call them up, go out and do things with them. Exam time only last for a short time, and with spending time with friends or hobbies you'll see the time fly and be back spending time with your boyfriend.
2007-03-20 07:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by merrymeet2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quality over quantity. Have him do something very special with you atleast once a week - even if he has exams.
Other then that... he really should be focusing on his exams. I'd give him his space and prepare to keep yourself busy and occupied when you know his exams are approaching.
2007-03-20 07:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.......his working hard at his studies will allow him to have a good paying career that will support him and possibly you for the next 50 yrs. I'm sorry but if you arent mature enough to be something other than the center of attention for a few weeks at time in exchange for a better future, than you are hardly mature enough for a relationship.
2007-03-20 07:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to make more important than the exams right now .He is right in giving more emphsis on his exams.If you are truly in love you will never disturb him when he is on a serious venture. This holds good later in life too. Give unto him the best you can and the best will come back to you. All the best.
2007-03-20 18:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he spend more time with you than on his exams? Eventually school will be over and you will have plenty of time together, plus he will have a good education. You should be glad that he is concerned about his education and future (which could be good for YOUR future too if you hang in there).
2007-03-20 07:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently suffering with the same problem! Its lack of motivation!!! If you think about your boyfriend most, maybe set yourself a challenge and the reward be something really nice to do with your boyfriend! See a movie, go out for a meal - do something that excites you enough to motivate you to get the work done! Good luck!
2016-03-16 23:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he's finished his exams! If you try and get him not to study then he won't like you anymore... so just be patient!
2007-03-20 07:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His exams are more important and quite right too but he wont have his exams forever,so just be patient and keep supporting him.
2007-03-20 07:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself - his education is much more important than you are right now - after he is through with University and can relax, then it may be better. He cannot make a good life for himself and hopefully, for you if you are constantly distracting him from his education.
2007-03-20 07:16:31 · answer #11 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋