My wife is going to have her first swing fling next week. After 4 years of dealing with her depression she is starting to return to living life. The guy is a semi friend and we know that he is clean. This is a fling just for sex, we are secure in our love. What should I look out for?
2007-03-20 07:05:04 · 7 answers · asked by uniroyalfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What?!?! If you're secure in your love why would she need to have a fling just for sex, what are u chopped liver? I'm a counselor, and believe me, sex with a stranger is not cure for depression, an honest and true marriage could be though.
2007-03-20 07:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hon. Hope this find you well.
I don't know that you'll need to "look out" for anything, but you might want to get some earplugs for the (quite more than) possible BACKFIRE this will cause.
I don't care what she's telling you or what you think you're hearing, but chances are she's only doing this because she feels like it's the only way to make you happy. Otherwise you'd be writing to say that you are so happy because your wife, who has been suffering from depression for the past four years is finally breaking free of her damaging cycles and has put YOU back at the top of the list of things she wants do!!
In her state of mind, you can bet that there will be mixed up feelings (often times women confuse sex with love) even women secure in their love with their man can get confused.
Although if you want to keep an eye out for something to prove what I'm saying to be true, you will more likely see one of two things happen:
1) her symptoms of depression will re-appear and she will start sinking back into her shell (from feeling guilty even though you say it's ok, for feeling dirty even though you think it's hot, etc)
OR
2) she's gonna turn into one raging sl*t and instead of acting depressed will turn into a "sex maniac" who will love, love love it all the time...just not really with you.
(I know there are folk who do this swinging thing together and that's all good and fine - when it's ALL good and fine, but I dont' recommend it here. Not with where you say she's been all this time.)
2007-03-20 07:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I not quite sure, why are you turning to swing, if your marriage is that great each other is all you should need. But your concern may be that she wants to see him again and again.
2007-03-20 07:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ? you and she swing? another man is taking you wife to bed . he is doing what you should be doing and you are asking what to look out for ?
2007-03-20 07:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned with why she wants to give herself to someone else and not the one she is supposed to be in love with. Take her to a doc and not a d_ _ _ .
2007-03-20 07:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by mojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should look out for the guy to take your place in your home.
2007-03-20 07:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned about her dumping you for the new friend.
2007-03-20 07:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋