My hubby is a swingers. We've been married for 3 yrs. I really want to quit follwing him to be a swingers, but he's gonna mad at me. He keep saying that this is just for fun. I really didnt find any 'fun' as swingers, but only make him happy.I did many things for him to stop, conversation etc. But cant help and make him more angry. What i should do without divorce him?
2007-03-20 07:01:25 · 10 answers · asked by ali n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Swinging / Swapping & Open marriages are a fast lane to divorce for most couples..
The only relatively safe multi-partner sex are 3somes with
hubby and another woman always invited by the wife..
Never ever have another man or couple in your bed...
Sounds like your marriage is on the fast lane to divorce...
Tell him you love him and want to stay married but his
lifestyle is going to destroy your marriage and you hate
for it to happen...Offer him the 3somes idea as a compromise...
2007-03-20 07:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NEVER...let me say that again...NEVER get involved in a sexual lifestyle to please someone else. Period.
If you aren't a swinger, then he's not a swinger...it takes both of you. If he's still playing around, against your wishes, then he's just a cheater.
Make it clear to him that you aren't interested in the lifestyle and you desire a monogamous relationship. If he refuses, then although you don't desire divorce it would be the preferred option. That way you'd be free to meet someone who has sexual desires more similar to your own.
Swinging is fine if all parties involved are open to it and having fun...when anyone doesn't want to be there or has had enough though, it needs to end (or the relationship needs to end).
2007-03-20 07:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Besides divorcing him, all you can do is live with it.
You knew what he was all about in the beginning, and now you're trying to change the rules on him mid stream. It won't work. People usually don't change things they LIKE doing.
You're either going to have to keep up with him the same way you always did, or get out of it. There's just no two ways about it.
2007-03-20 07:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you wanted to stop, you should have simply stopped. Not try to reason with him. Just stop.
If he DEMANDS it, you lack the ingredients for a solid marriage. Swinging will kill this kind of marriage. If he does not respect your wishes you can either divorce him (or threaten to) or just put up with it.
The problem isn't swinging. The problem is that your husband is an inconsiderate a$$.
2007-03-20 08:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should seperate for a while and let him have his fling. I would not approve of this either. I am a believer of one man at a time. Sharing a husband is a little more than I would have tollerate. I feel sorry for you cause you want no part of this. Just leave him to his own distruction...
2007-03-20 07:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that this situation is no longer working for you and you will not be a party to it anymore, then adamantly refuse to participate in those kinds of activities with him . Tell him that it does not make you happy and that you you have only done it to make him happy in the past but you no longer want this kind of relationship.
2007-03-20 07:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know this before you married? If so, you don't have much room to complain. However, this isn't something you should have to tolerate in your life if you don't like it. I think it is ultimatum time, and be prepared for you marriage to end.
2007-03-20 07:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this stops right now and he can kiss your *** and get glad the same way he got mad. If he don't like it, there's the door.
2007-03-20 07:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a whore and making you one too. This only works in marriages where both people want it and obviously you don't. SO don't divorce him...just leavehim.
2007-03-20 07:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you might have to divorce him. He likes cheating.
2007-03-20 07:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋