I have to share my office with a lesbian starting next week, I am not bi-curious, should I feel unconfortable? What if she hits on me?
2007-03-20 06:43:48 · 28 answers · asked by Cuddles 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're so weird.
2007-03-20 06:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jasper 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're female? Why is this any different than sharing your office with a guy you despise, who might hit on you. Don't be rude, but if she makes you that uncomfortable, just try to avoid talking to her. If she hits on you (which I doubt she will if you're giving off very negative vibes) then just calmly tell her that you aren't interested, and would appreciate it if she refrained from that sort of behavior. However, you could try to become friends, and you may be surprised at how little difference there is between a lesbian friend, and a straight friend. I guess you couldn't check out guys together...
2007-03-20 06:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's just silly! No, you don't need to be uncomfortable. Just because I am a lesbian does NOT mean that I am attracted to all women, I have my own tastes and a set of standards. To assume that she will automatically be attracted to you and/or hit on you goes beyond self confidence. Even if she does become attracted to you, if she has the knowledge that you are straight, nothing will ever come of it. So just mention your boyfriend/husband in casual conversation some day and she will know. It's really not all that confusing or stressful as you are making it. Try not to be quite so self-flattering, it is an unbecoming trait to have.
2007-03-20 07:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please! Stop and think a moment. If, and I do mean if, this gal is a lesbian then I would not worry one bit. It's not contagious, the chances of her hitting on you are slim and none-she would like to keep her job too, given half a chance you might find out she could be a good friend to you.
Most lesbians I know, are very hard workers and really help those around them. And no! They don't hit on co-workers unless the other hits first.
2007-03-20 06:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think like i will form of relate to your concern. i'm one hundred% lesbian and for a on an analogous time as I had a complicated time being around bisexuals by way of fact I (ignorantly) felt that it wasn't splendid that bisexuals have been given to dip their ft in the two worlds. alongside with that feeling, i think you could say I felt threatened by using bisexuals and became afraid to be in a relationship with one by way of risk that they might go away me for somebody of yet another gender, which meant that stated man or woman would have something i'd by no ability be waiting to grant. i think of it is all approximately how issues are perceived. you could sense uncomfortable around lesbians in view which you in keeping with risk get a nasty vibe from them, on the comparable time, you would be feeling that way in view which you do no longer understand why a lesbian would be against being with a male. besides, those are purely some strategies. i'm hoping you come across your answer quickly. :-)
2016-12-15 04:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she likes girls, doesn't mean she thinks or feels any differently than you. Would you harass a man at work that you were interested in, would you do things to make him feel uncomfortable, or say comments that may offend him? I have heard of sexual harassment in the workplace but it is not usually perpetrated by women. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Women think alike, and I am sure she would not do anything to put you in an uncomfortable situation, I am sure she will be professional.
2007-03-20 06:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do not want to go to the party it is still nice to be invited. Be frank and honest and you will be fine.
Ps. How do you know she is a lesbian? Was it on her resume? Or is this just office gossip?
2007-03-20 06:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by marduk D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contrary to popular belief, gay/bi/lesbians are not just wild animals running around looking for sex. Everyone always acts like if theyre around someone like that, that theyre eventually going to get hit on or taken advantage of. Im not saying that its ok to be like that.. Homosexuality is sorta like sexual retardation. but back to you being uncomfortable, dont worry about it. If she does happen to start hitting on you (dont be paraniod and think that every smile or comment is hitting on you) then ask to be moved or get over it...
2007-03-20 06:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by skitch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a real lesbian will not hit on you if you are not interested. Interest is a two way thing. So maybe you are interested if you have a problem with it?
Relax it will be allright. A lesbian is not a monster you know!
2007-03-20 07:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by luvsexhappiness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She should feel uncomfortable because she has to share an office with a WACKO.
Why is it that straight women think ALL lesbians want YOU. lol. I highly doubt it. Get over yourself & concentrate on your WORK. Loser.
2007-03-20 06:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Try not to look so uncomfortable. Just be yourself and if she brings any relationship arguments to you, let her know you not interested. Try not to go anywhere with her, or be alone with her. Don't be curious about lesbianism, because you might try something with her and you get hook 4 life. When you try it once, you might never wanna go back to a man!
2007-03-20 06:54:02 · answer #11 · answered by hotti_hottichiny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋