About four months ago (Mid November) I had sex with a woman who I no longer keep in touch with. A month after this event, she confronted me stating she had missed her period and was worried of being pregnant. I had an initial freak-out, but was able to subdue myself to think rationally. We decided to take a pregnancy test, duh. However, the following day (the day that she had planned to take the test) she came to me saying that she had her period. Relieved. I again asked her to take the pregnancy test just as a precaution, to prepare for the worst. She assured me it was OK and that would not be necessary. With that, I did not persist, left her and have not spoken with her since.
But it gets worse, yesterday, a very good friend of mine said to me, "ya know, that girl you were with back when looked, umm, pregnant..."
This is where I'm at, what do I do if she's pregnant, if so, she's obviously been deceitful and do I have responsibilities for the pregnancy?
Thanks, Machockey
2007-03-20 06:31:09 · 13 answers · asked by machockey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
unless she comes to you and says you are the father, i wouldnt confront her about it, even if she does say its yours demand a paternity test, you tried to do the right thing at the beginning now let her figure her own problems out.
try not to worry about it. easier said than done i know.
good luck
2007-03-20 06:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by puppy love 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
she has been very deceitful but she might have her own reasons 4 it...u do howeva need 2 talk 2 her 2 c what is really goin on. u sound like even though ur freaked out about havin a baby that u would b there 4 her and the baby (which is good). u need 2 first find out if it is urs 2 c if u should even be held responsible. if she is being hard headed and stubborn about it not being urs then just let her b. give her some time and mabye she will come around.... ... ... good luck!
2007-03-20 06:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that under the law where you are, unless you are on the birth certificate you do not have finicial responsibilities. . . There is a little moral thing though. You might want to think about starting a little journal for your possible child. I am not talking about keeping a daily log about your day, but you might want to write something telling your side of the story, try to make an entry at least every month, or when something happens ( if she contacts you for the birth)
This log might help you in relating to her and also to the child if there is ever a situation where you might want to "explain" yourself.
2007-03-20 06:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rocka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I know this story all too well. ( long story) BUT anyway. I would somehow find a piece of clothing or something as a reson to go to her house or whatever. ia ms ure she is scared. The sad thing is you dont have any rights until the baby is born. She can do as she pleases. You can though find out when she has the baby and request through the courts for a DNA test. I would be a "friendly" as possible though and tell her that you wanted to hang out as friends again.
2007-03-20 06:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby may not be urs and thats why she hasnt contacted u. If u want to take the initiative to ask her, then by all means do so. That would be a responsible thing for u to do.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-20 06:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one! would you want responcibility for the baby? i havent told my ex i'm pregnant yet. he's moved got a new job a new girl a new evrything and i'm scared he's gonna say some dumb **** like it's not mine even though i know it is. i would look her up and find out if she's pregnant if it's really important to you find out. God bless you for wanting to know and caring about the baby (if i interpreted this right) but obviously she doesn't want you to know that she's pregnant. were you guys together or was it jsut casual sex? sorry i couldn't helo you more good luck to you
2007-03-20 06:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by carrol d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely confront her about it....if this is your child you have every right to know. That is of course if you are willing to take on the responsibility of being a father.....if not leave her alone she obviously doesn't want you around anyway.
2007-03-20 06:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... I'm sorry. I would confront her. Just calmly walk up to her and ask how she is doing and everything and then ask why she lied about being pregnant. I think you do have responsibilities to this baby (if it is yours). When the baby is born get a paternity test to make sure. I dunno, it's a tough situation, but that;s what I would do.
2007-03-20 06:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to talk to her and ask her. That's the only way you won't drive yourself crazy. If the answer is a yes, yes once the baby is born your responible.
2007-03-20 06:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she doesnt know who the father is. i would ask her that is, if you are willing to step up and be a father from here on out.
please keep in mind a paternity test cannot be done until AFTER the child is born.
2007-03-21 17:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋