My friend totally hates my bf but she has a right cuz my bf has been very abusive in the past.He used to get upset & aggressive when I would do anything w/ her & he has even called her up accusin her of weird things so I understand if she doesn't like him. But I did a terrible to my bf & flirted w/ a guy right in front of him (ya I know really stupid of me) & my bf was super mad.I called my friend to get advice & she said "You screwed up, you said sorry so give it some time."She also said things that I didnt really need to hear like how it would be good if he didn't accept my apology cuz it'd be better if I wasnt w/ him anyway & it's he probably wont forgive me cuz he's crazy.I told her today that I didnt appreciate that & I know now I cant talk to her abt anything relating to him or my relationship w/ him.She said she is straight up & says what she feels & I can't expect her to just tell me what I want hear.We ended the talk badly.She is my best friend & I don't what us to be mad.
2007-03-20 06:15:00 · 4 answers · asked by Main 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You both need to sit a talk to each other about it and you and her need to try to see both of each other side and you both need to talk each other feeling in to count.
2007-03-20 06:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by C.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are likely not going to like my answer but your best friend is actually being just that. She is a great friend. She has your best interests at heart and she is right on this. You are better off without the b/f. It does not matter why he was abusive .It matters THAT he was abusive.This behaviour does not change easily if at all. We teach people how to treat us and if you are with this guy despite his abuse , be it emotional or physical, you are saying to him that you have no self worth and that you deserve to be treated that way. Listen to your friend who obviously cares for you a whole lot to be that honest and frank with you.If the guy was a stand up guy and the friend was jealous then I would say your friend needs to chill but you admitted that he had abused you in some way so sorry but your friend is right. Give her some time, ditch the guy and then write her a letter to tell her that you value her friendship. I truely hope you realize that this guy is not good for you. I know it hurts but being single for a while is better than being with a control freak or abuser. Have some dignity and move on from this guy. Salvage your friendship. She will come around once she sees you have wised up and taken her good advice.It IS good advice. you friend knows what she is talking about.
2007-03-20 13:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should have chosen your friend over your boyfriend a long time ago. She acts the way she does because she cares about, apparently more than he does.
Maybe she'll come around, or maybe you've lost your best friend over a guy who doesn't treat you with respect.
2007-03-20 13:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see if thng kool off first. and he is a good friend then he would say he wants to be your friend again
2007-03-20 13:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋