Are there ANY MORAL people left in the world?

Question

I was just wondering when did it become alright for people who are not married to have sex with anyone they want? Why is it normal and why is it alright with everyone? Who decided this? I find it sad that people give that part of themselves away like it means nothing. I only wish that people would be more moral and save their body for their one and only.

By the way, I am not judging those who choose to live this way, because nearly everyone I know does have sex with someone they are not married to. But why? Why is it so hard to wait? Why can't you just respect yourself enough to not waste your virginity on a passing fling? Why is is that you "love" the person you are sleeping with but it does not last? If you had fallen in love and then gotten married and then slept together wouldn't that have made your relationship more special?

I am confused as to why people act the way they do now of days. Help me to understand and to know if I am the only one left that feels this way.

Multiple premarital sex partners enhance women's risk of divorce. Premarital Sex, Cohabitation, and Divorce: the Broken Link

Those who are sexually active before marriage are much more likely to divorce. A study of 2,746 women in the National Survey of Family Growth performed by Dr. Kahn of the Univ of Maryland and Dr. London of the National Center for Health Statistics found that non-virgin brides increase their odds of divorce by about 60%. Physicians For Life

A U.S. study found that compared to those who marry as virgins, men are 63 percent more likely and women 76 percent more likely to divorce if they have had sex before marriage. Edward O. Laumann et al., The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1994), 364. United Families International

Individuals who engage in premarital sexual activity are 50 percent more likely to divorce later in life than those who remained abstinent prior to their marriag

Cohabitation and Infidelity

In a study published in the Journal of Marriage and the Family researchers analyzed the relationships of 1,235 women, ages 20 to 37, and found that women that had cohabited before marriage were 3.3 times more likely to have a secondary sex partner after marriage (Forste and Tanfer 1996:33-47). Physicians For Life

Cohabitation and Divorce

Cohabitating couples are 33% more likely to divorce than couples who do not live together before marriage. Is Obeying God Worth It?

"Cohabiting couples are less satisfied than married spouses with their partnerships; are not as close to their parents, are less committed to each other; and, if they eventually marry, have higher chances of divorce" (Nock 1998: 4). What the figures tell

Individuals who cohabit before they marry face a significantly higher chance of getting divorced than those who do not cohabit. Married couples, where both spouses have cohabited, are between 33% (Cherlin 1992) and 50% (L

Answer 1

First of all, let me say that you are awesome. I struggle with the world's view on this myself. Morality should be more important. Also, you are not the only one that thinks this way. I agree with you. Both my wife and I were virgins until our wedding night.

Unfortunately, desensitization has been taking place over the past . What would never have been socially acceptable 20 years ago, is now common occurance. Look at what is allowed in TV or in movies. The world is becoming more and more immoral and it's very sad.

Virginity until marraige is something that is supposed to make someone proud. But today's society makes fun of people with moral courage. All we can do is make the right decisions, and encourage others when the opportunity presents itself.

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Answer 2

I know what you mean. I am feeling a little depress right now, but their are some people that have good values and morals. The average person is selfish(me attitude), and they fail to put others before themselves. There is an old expression: "The world is going to hell(grave) in a hand basket." I do not rely on politic mumbo jumbo to show me the right way. There is a much higher being that will rectify this. I hope you understand what I am trying to say. We as a generation of people is far gone. Remember the days when kids, adults alike had respect for each other? Now a days it is ok to be called a b@@ch or a wh@@e. Young ladies have been brain washed to think that this is acceptable. I for one, do not like to be disrespected.Respect starts with one selves. So if we do not respect ourselves, why would we want someone to respect us in return. In conclusion, I would like to say there are morals left by some, but it is like a pleasure gem that has to be protected. So ladies, or gentlemen, if you ever find that special gem, hold on to them and treat like the jewel that they are, because a good man or woman is hard too fine.

Answer 3

Morals are always changing as people learn. The Bible teaches that fornication is bad, but before that it was common for couples to get married because the woman was pregnant.

The Bible changed the world and changed the rules. The Bible provided answers for questions that people were never able to answer before.

The age of enlightenment provided answers that often contradicted the Bible. These answers made the rules of the Bible seem less pertinent and less final. The rule against fornication started to fade with protection from pregnancy and with an understanding of STDs.

Your suggestion that sex after marriage makes the marriage more special is from the fairytales. It is neither true, nor is it better.

What makes a marriage work is two people who are best friends and have total trust in each other. Whether they have slept together or not they will have the strongest bond a relationship can be based upon.

Sex before marriage verifies that the couple is sexually compatible. It also gives the couple the chance to truly share their love for each other.

Sex after marriage is great but it does not enhance the stability of the marriage. It merely allows two people to have up to that point only slept with each other.

The divorce rate in the US alone is 60% of first marriages. The odds that previously celibate couple will stay married for life are not any better than those that are not celibate before marriage.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 4

Where I come from morality has to do with issues of life and death, war and peace, telling the truth and lying, and respecting your fellow man.

For a truly moral person, sexuality is a very tiny part of thier morality, and totally irrelavant if you are unmarried and engaging in non-coerced consentual activity. Sexuality only becomes a moral issue when it is coupled with dishonesty, the betryal of another person or the coersion of another person.

Only those who fear consensual sexuality claim that it is a big part of morality and seek to condemn others for thier choices regarding love affection and sex. This constant need to reign in and condemn the sexual freedom of others is an immoral impulse in my opinion, and leads to jealousy, wrath, and pride.

Answer 5

The problem is not Morality, but their INTERPRETATION of Morality.

All Morality is based on some Religious Context. Many act like Animals and just fulfill their Baser Drives without taking into their Thoughts, the Results of said actions!

The CDC web site has many of the STD'S [Sexually Transmitted Diseases] which people PASS AROUND in their Ignorance!

Thanks, for a Good Question! It shows that you have Real Feelings, and not Just Animal Dirves!

Thanks, RR, http://home.att.net/~roger459

Answer 6

We are all selfish and think of our personal gain first.

Yet we can choose to sacrifice our ego for the eternal principles of love, commitment, honesty, truthfulness, and kindness. Love is the main one.

You can not give something you lack.But Jesus can fill that emptyness and then we can love ourselves, and sacrifice for others in a moral sense.

Answer 7

I don't think you're the only one that feels that way; read some of the posts here in Religion and Spirituality and you'll be encouraged.

Answer 8

Society has become more tolerant of this sort of behaviour. The sexual urge is a strong one, and difficult to ignore. (Think of all those priests who got themselves in trouble when it came to altarboys!) Many people still retain a strong moral code, however I think it has fallen "out of fashion" so to speak.

Answer 9

i think there is a lot of ppl with ur point of view
personally i m against sex before marriage (and i m a man too), and as u r asking yes it is hard to wait, very hard.. good i got married young :D

Answer 10

after 38 years of marriage I strayed into a relationship with a co worker, The three of us now live together and so far this committment, although sometimes a bit rocky, are still holding us together.