14 and feeling suicidal?

Question

I have been through so much this year and I thought it was supposed to be new year new start? My friend killed himself by slitting his wrists, my other friend died from a heart attack, my mum keeps having a go at me for nothing and other things, too many to mention. I feel there is nothing to live for any more and just want to end it all. I have hardly any friends anyway. I've tried talking to people but it's no use.

Answer 1

Talk or email the Samaritans (www.samaritans.co.uk or 08457 909090) - they won't tell you what to do or not do, but they will listen to how you feel and that might help. It's worth a try - good luck x

Answer 2

i'm 14 too.
sometimes i feel that way too. i'm so ashamed of some of the stuff i've done.
hang in there! You've blatantly had the toughest year imaginable. It WILL get better. Think of what you have got. Think of your future. Your dreams. You don't want to leave this world. Look around next time you're out and see how beautiful everything is. Look at stuff like an artist does. Look at people on the street and ask yourself what they're going through. You have SO much to live for. it may not be close to home but it's there. You can't change the past, you may not like the present, but you can always live for the future. Stay positive. Listen to your favourite music or watch a funny film when you're feeling depressed. Don't dwell on it. And if you must think of suicide, think about everything and everyone you'd be leaving behind. People DO love you. Your mum must love you, or else she'd give up on you and stop nagging! Just wait it out. It has to get worse before it gets better! just look forward to the getting better! take care. x

Answer 3

You must separate the normal feelings of turmoil that you will get as a teenager from the dreadful losses of your friends. I think you need some professional counselling about that, because they're terrible things for you to be going through alone. Make an appointment to see your doctor and confide in him/her and ask for advice - they will hopefully refer you on.
Regarding the other stuff - we've all been 14 and had similar experiences, being lonely, insecure, worried, parents have a go at you for nothing, feeling there's nothing to live for. Try to see your parents' point of view - they've raised you from a baby and cared for you and they're still trying to protect you from the outside world until they feel you're ready for it, so whatever they're doing, they're doing it in your best interests even if you don't think so. I'd speak to a teacher at your school, find a friendly one and ask to have a private word with them and let it all spill out. It's often easier to talk to someone other than your parents, and they can find objective solutions.
Don't give up hope. You're still young, with so much life ahead of you and great prospects. There's a whole world out there full of fun and adventure and, just a few more years, you will have money and friends and maybe a partner to experience this all with. But, for now, it's a horrible age and you've taken some knocks. Confide in people who are able to help you.
if u want someone as a friend i can help:
IM me at nisha_jasla,
always share ur prob with the closet friend u have as this will lighten ur heart.
Good luck, I wish you well.

Answer 4

OK, you're going to get some good advice from people here on Yahoo because so man y of us have been through similar problems. First of all, however, you must separate the normal feelings of turmoil that you will get as a teenager from the dreadful losses of your friends. I think you need some professional counselling about that, because they're terrible things for you to be going through alone. Make an appointment to see your doctor and confide in him/her and ask for advice - they will hopefully refer you on.
Regarding the other stuff - we've all been 14 and had similar experiences, being lonely, insecure, worried, parents have a go at you for nothing, feeling there's nothing to live for. Try to see your parents' point of view - they've raised you from a baby and cared for you and they're still trying to protect you from the outside world until they feel you're ready for it, so whatever they're doing, they're doing it in your best interests even if you don't think so. I'd speak to a teacher at your school, find a friendly one and ask to have a private word with them and let it all spill out. It's often easier to talk to someone other than your parents, and they can find objective solutions.
Don't give up hope. You're still young, with so much life ahead of you and great prospects. There's a whole world out there full of fun and adventure and, just a few more years, you will have money and friends and maybe a partner to experience this all with. But, for now, it's a horrible age and you've taken some knocks. Confide in people who are able to help you.
Good luck, I wish you well.

Answer 5

look...you are still very young...you still got a lot of things ahead of you...

remember this: suicide is NOT the way to go. heck, when it comes right down to it, there's no valid enough reason to do it.

the thing is, misery and hardship really seems overwhelming. true, it seems like the world sometimes conspires against you and throws all this hardship in your face even though you feel you don't deserve it. it's almost like there are times when fate is just sooo unfair and that you're being pushed further down into despair. well, that kind of perspective is common but letting it take over your way of thinking is wrong.

hopelessness is often a misconception. the truth remains (no matter how unlikely it seems) that you aren't made to face this kind of hardship if you can't handle it. despair and sorrow is not necessarily a punishment. rather, it's a test. it's a challenge that is meant to make you stronger. it's hard but it isn't necessarily hopeless. sometimes, you just got to adjust your point of view. optimism really works sometimes. after all, there's that cliche saying that every cloud has silver lining. thus, even bad situations have hope.

don't let your troubles take over your life. you were given life as a gift so live it well. you have a purpose for living and you are given this time and opportunity to find out what that is. you got a lot of chances ahead of you - chances for you to discover and take. no life is without purpose. believe it or not, you can make a difference. don't waste your life away. it's just too precious to give up on.

there really are some times when you feel you've hit rock bottom. however, rock bottom isn't necessarily the worst place to be in unless you tell yourself it's the end of the line. as long as you have hope and believe that things could change for the better, you can make it. it doesn't matter how small the chance is. as long as there's a possibility, it's worth it. life's to wonderful to give up on just yet.

Answer 6

Please dont do anything silly here. You've had a lot to deal with for one so young, and i truely feel for you, I also understand to a certain extent. When I was a little older then u one of my closest frinds was killed in an accident, at around the same time a close family member got very ill, mix that with teenage hormones and the normal stuff eveyone that age goes through and the whole world seemed like it was stacking up against me. You need to take a good look at your life and break it down piece by piece, your looking at a picture thats to hard to cope with in one go. See what u can fix first, as for your friends if theres one thing i've learned its that its not quantity but quality. I would take one good friend over 100 'mates'. You mum may seem like she goes at u for no reason but if u isolate her from everything else you've had to cope with maybe its not so bad after all, and if it is maybe she has some issues as well. Try and be strong. I know its hard, but this to shall pass. Take care of u, the rest of the world will take care of itself in time xxxxxxxxxx

Answer 7

Suicide is not the answer to your problems, trust me! It may ssem like it at the moment, but in a few years time you'll look back at this moment in your life and you'll see how it has helped you to grow stronger. Everything in life is sent to try us and by going through all of these things you will be learning so much. All parents get on their kids cases at some time or another it's just part of growing up. I'm very sorry to hear about your friends honey, but please don't kill youself. You are still very young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You will have so many happy times to come and they will easily out weigh the bad times. Dealing with a loss is very difficult no matter what age you are, maybe you might find it useful to talk to someone at school like the school nurse or another adult you can trust. Don't do anything silly just think of all the other people you will be leaving behing, chin up and I hope you have a happy future xxx

Answer 8

I think it would help you to look at other 14 year olds who are happy, working towards their future in an intelligent way, who could offer you a better example... rather than being influenced too much by people who have made mistakes & have messed up lives.
EG. Ask on this site for other kids your age to be your friend...

We don't know what happens to use when we die. It might be that people who commit suicide find they are sent here again & again until they learn to overcome the conditions / tests set for them...

Instead of opting for a negative, to fix a negative, try to identify & go along with the positive approaches to problems.

If your mum is hassling you, ask her to back off a little cos you're a bit overloaded right now.
Ask for her help & support (especially emotionally).

If she is too uptight to give you that, find someone else you can confide in who is worthy of your trust. Perhaps even a teacher at school, or advice centre for young people...

Answer 9

things will always get better. it seems as if they won't now, and i won't pretend that its going to be just round the corner, but one day you'll be free from your mum, in college or work where you can reinvent yourself and make new friends and even further on you'll have a wife/partner and kids and a home and life will be sweet. everyone has problems, most not as bad as yours granted, but you have to just deal with them because once you end it all there is no going back. do you know what happens to you when you die? there could be nothing, an eternal darkness that you can never escape, with no one to talk to or touch. do you really want that possibility to come sooner rather than later? surely being alive with a crumby life (at the moment) is better than not being alive. your mum will miss you, people will miss you, people you would never expect to. you are loved. don't do it man, as a complete stranger i dont want you to do it coz id miss you. an im not gay, just so you know.

Answer 10

What can i say it is so sad for you to feel this way at your young age,I am 50 years old and have lost a young son and have had girlfriend's and wives leave me and have wanted to end it all but things do get better and at your age there is so much that you can do with your life.My 12year old daughter does not have any friends but she goes on her laptop a lot so you telling us how you feel is a good start to you making friends,you can talk to me any time and i am sure there will be a lot of other people that you can talk to on your pc but be careful about meeting people or telling them where you live.Talk to your teacher if you can't talk to your mum or dad.

Answer 11

You've obviously been through a lot but killing yourself will never solve anything it's just the stupid and lazy way out of your problems life sucks a lot of times that's just a fact but you just have to learn to deal with it try doing something you like besides think of when your friend killed himself and how that made you feel think of the effect killing yourself will have on other people I know you probably feel down right now but suicide isn't the answer
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