because I decided that my personality needed tweaking and tuning.But today in my univesity class I had a "knock to my confidence", and was embarrassed in front of my whole university class.What do I do now?Do I give up university - god university really is stressful!I really do feel self conscious because of what happended as it did make me look quite weak physically I guess?
2007-03-20 05:41:17 · 14 answers · asked by BRAD Thomas 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Where do I stand now?
2007-03-20 05:47:26 · update #1
Some things take practice. Stick with it. You've stepped out of your comfort zone, which is not only very courageous, but the only way to expand that comfort zone. Cut yourself some slack and keep at it. You may be surprised how little anyone else remembers of what may be a big deal to you. And, how much respect you might earn by taking risks.
2007-03-20 05:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you damn well do not give up on Uni. Why are you there now, like all the rest you are trying to better yourself. As you admit you are short on self belief, if you quit now that's another blow to your confidence. I am religious but I am not going to go there, just remember that you are unique, there is no one quite like you and you are as entitled to be here as much as anyone. Somewhere in life is a reason for your existence, it does not matter that you were embarrassed, as one of the answers said it will be someone else's turn next. I know how stressful Uni can be, my Grandson finished his Masters last year, and his sister is there now. However when it's over and you have that Degree in your hand and letters after your name you will be amongst a very small percentage of our youth today who have achieved that. Keep your head up, walk tall, be proud, and above all be true to yourself. Good Luck with the course.
2007-03-20 07:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I'm an old woman and do not give an ounce of your time to worrying about what other people think of you. The reason I say this is because most people don't let you stay but one second in their thinking. Their thoughts are on themselves and not other people. Tomorrow or the next day that embarrassing moment will happen to someone else in your university class, so you don't own the trait of being the only person ever to be embarrassed. The Lord teaches don't offend people and don't take offense from people. Please God and God will take care of the other people for you.
2007-03-20 05:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two things work:
1/ When being laughed at in front of a crowd, maintain ones Poker Face untill laughing stops, shrug and say " F..@@k it"
2/When being intimidated again maintain ones Poker Face and say "F..@@k it".
It does work, it doesnt make you a worse person and the people who are gaining Self Esteem from putting you down will see you building Character and strength.
Also there crowd of followers will open their eyes as well.
Just Do It once see what you think, you dont have to be a lick **** to get on in the world and graduate!
2007-03-26 02:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Goatboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it up you are probably the only one thinking about it. Perhaps the person that knocked your confidence is the one that is looking weak to others. Return with your head up high feel proud of yourself and your assertion. Avoid stressful situations.
2007-03-27 02:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto in life is: I'm no better than anybody else, & there is no one better than me.
Also a few yrs back i was feeling exactly how u describe, I wrote a lil poem it goes like this:
I'll be somebody someday
with a voice that people can hear,
i won't be just a face in the crowd,
who steps back when they get near.
Someday i'll be somebody
who'll stand for what i believe,
I won't succum to the pressures of opinion
I'll be proud, I'll succeed.
2007-03-20 05:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by crackertyjack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not as bad as you think. I reckon if you dwell on it then so will other people. Put it down to experience, learn from it so that next time you don't make the same mistakes. In time you will overcome you insecurities. There are a lot of insecure people around, they're just better at hiding it.
2007-03-27 13:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what you made a fool of yourself on that day,it will be some one else who looks the fool tomorrow or the next day,
the real test in life is how you getback up from the lows not how you ride the highs.
when you get your qualifications you wil look back and laugh at this( keep your chin up & reach that goal)
2007-03-26 10:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by scooter blade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we have to be humble and bow down, not to our weakness, but knowing when to stop and say something, like oh i was wrong, you're right. it shouldn't be embarrassing , we are all not perfect and all have our faults, knowing them and saying them is not a weakness. not admitting our faults and not knowing them (like someone whos always right) are.
my son taught me that........he is very humbling..........and is very confident in the person he is, he accepts his faults as his and is glad he is no where near perfect............
2007-03-24 14:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep repeating to yourself, "The meek shall inherit the Earth!" (if that's all right with everyone else..) :)
2007-03-20 06:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋