What are the true natures of men and women?

Question

As a man who considers himself submissive to women, I often wonder if their is a "true" nature to men and women. I think I've heard arguments for various beliefs and a lot of those based upon sexuality. For example, it is often said that a man will state exactly what he wants from a woman, in terms of sex, within the first minute; whereas, a woman choses to be discovered. How true is this? And to what extent is there a Dominant side and/or a submissive side to either men or women?

Your thoughts, please.

Okay, so where do the stereotypical dominant roles fall in? who does it naturally over the other or is there a sharing, so-to-speak of the roles?

And any thoughts from women? I value everyone's opinion...

Answer 1

I don't think that the nature of a human has anything to do with her or his gender. I think that it is the prevailing belief that women and men have different natures because most people choose to view the world through rosy colored glasses of oversimplification that make gender a personality trait. Viewing women as one type of person and men as another is much more simple than assessing each person as an individual. Gender provides simple minded folk with another means of stifling thought with classification/stereotyping, in my opinion. All of the many exceptions to stereotypes about the innate personalities/natures of women and men attest to the fallacy of the idea that we have inherently different natures ...

Answer 2

I don’t presume to know the true nature of either men or women. I am only one person with one life, and whenever I generalize, I end up being wrong about something.

Dominant and submissive are personality traits independent of gender, IMO. And, to a certain extent, if a relationship is to be successful, one must behave dominantly part of the time and submissively part of the time. Each couple needs to work out their own specifics. .

As far as stereotypical gender roles are concerned, I believe they are rooted in a division of labor that has both biological and practical aspects. Over time, as society and technology evolved, the traditional gender roles have become obsolete, because the survival of the species is not threatened by a man changing diapers or a woman wielding a chain saw.

Answer 3

I think men tend to be more dominant in a relationship because they are physically stronger than women. The true natures of men and women are the women are to stay in the home and take care of the home and raise the children whereas the men are to provide for the family by working for a living.

Answer 4

my my.. one HELL of a question... and being that I just so happen to be right smack dab in the middle of the whole Domination submission lifestyle I have seen many different sides of this story. Though the question is far more complicated than you think.

Let me start off with a very simple analogy... Owner goes out and buys a dog... now normally the dog is submissive, or is it? Is the dog submissive because that’s in its nature? No, he or she is so because as a good owner you must earn that dogs respect, show it that you know best, keep its interests at heart, never abuse its trust, and above all else be consistent, because in that consistency the pet finds comfort.

Now, if you are a wishy washy owner, and let your pet get away with anything it wants to do, you often find that your pet will actually take charge... will dictate to you when it wants to go out, when it wants to eat, drink, play and so on.. and pretty soon you will find yourself serving his needs.

Now why on earth did I just talk about dogs and pet owners? Well simple really... the same exact dynamic exists in EVERY relationship... whether you see it or not.. its there... someone is Dominant, while the other is submissive... True, that dynamic can be and often is a fluid one in relationship we in the lifestyle like to call "Vanilla", however the question shouldn’t be is one sex more dominant than the other, because either sex has the ability to take over if they feel it is in their best interest, and as often you see that women have. Does that mean that women are naturally submissive? or that men are naturally Dominant? or hell.. What is nature? Is it evolution, or creation? Were we destined? or did we evolve into this? So if we evolved to where we are, then who's to say that evolution dynamic cant change?

Now... my own personal opinion is different... and if you're asking me what I feel... well, I feel nature has evolved in a way that men have had to be strong, and protect their wife and family, they have had to battle, kill, provide, and protect.. and likewise women were the nurturers, the voice of reason, our balance, the thing that grounded us. Now... move ahead a few thousand years to today where we have a completely different dynamic...Men have lost much of their honor, and their backbone, and as such, women have taken over because we're just doing a lousy job.. .So what happens? Now women are fighting with their nature, those years of evolution that have taught her to find the strong provider, one who will protect her and such... well it no longer exists, which means they have to do it, but I feel that many women hate that.. they want a strong man, they want someone they can count on, and depend on... one who will at times tell them to shut up and sit down with HONOR... not with anger, because its best for them... but it no longer exists.. men are weak, they feel all women want is to have their asses kissed, so they do it, but don’t realize that action is doing nothing but making the woman resent them even more... so what happens... nice big snowball of confusion and whatnot, and the evolution of knowing your job and responsibility no longer exists in today’s society, because we are in this struggle to fight about what sex is better... I'll answer that one.. neither!!!

Answer 5

all i know is that with sexual desires both men and women are shallow at their core. if a man followed his sexual desires completely, he would end up with a new woman every day. if a woman followed her sexual desires completely, she would only be with rich popular guys and guys in their teens. the difference is that men today are discouraged from following these desires and women are being encouraged more and more. part of being a 'free and independent woman'. i call it hypocrisy.

Answer 6

Women as liar.

Everything women do is to deceive men into surrendering power to women. Whether cosmetics, short skirts, or sex.

Answer 7

Ah, the question of the ages. It's surprisingly simple. You absolutely MUST read these two books.
First read Wild at Heart and learn how to me a REAL man.
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Then read Captivating and learn what lies at the heart of all women.
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The natures of men and women have to do with original sin. If you do not believe in God, then first you must show yourself that I am wrong about this hypothesis. If each sex DOES in fact follow this nature as I describe it, then it in fact is PROOF of original sin and PROOF that God DOES exist.

On to it. What was the first sin? Eating the fruit? No, it was actually Adam sitting back and WATCHING the serpent tempt his wife, then allowing her to be deceived and finally for failing to prevent her from sinning. Adam really WAS there and he watched the whole thing. This first male sin has taken root in all of us and we men forever are cursed to desire to work and toil to provide for our families and also to protect them, because that is what Adam failed to do.

Women on the other hand suffer from a deep fear of abandonment, because that is what happened to Eve. All Women doubt in some way their worthiness and their beauty. Even supermodels. Read about Elle McPherson. She will tell you all about it. I hope I don't sound condescending, but Women need constant reassurance and validation. And we men enjoy giving it. Not because we feel superior towards women. Not in the slightest. We enjoy it because we want to give our ladies pleasure and we feel sorry for them. We enjoy it because it gives us purpose. Women have beauty in their soul. It's not just about sexy clothes and makeup. It's also about beautifying their environment. Who dresses up the home most? The ladies.

Because we are protectors and women feel insecure, it is more normal for a man to be dominant and for the woman to be submissive. If a person is the opposite, they have been taught (usually by their father) to go against their nature. If they can return to their true nature, then they will be much happier in the end.

The result of our curses gives each gender a method to measure ourselves. We Men measure our self-worth internally by our labor. Women measure their self-worth internally by the quality and quantity of their relationships.

That is the nature of men and women. Read the books and take up a hobby that connects you with women. Nothing better than dance.

You should not consider yourself submissive to women. You are her equal. I would suggest that you learn to partner dance. Take country, swing, or a Latin dance like salsa or tango. Believe it or not, within a year, your attitude towards women will become much healthier. You will realize that men and women are equal but different. We both have our own individual responsibilities that are suited to our nature. And the great sins of the world throughout history are due to each of us going against our nature. Men failed to protect their women. Women took charge of their men. Dancing with the opposite sex balances you out.

Answer 8

Men are hunters and protectors; women are caretakers and protectors of the nest; including his secrets. She is to be his pillow, his refuge and to release him of his pressures.

Answer 9

men are good women are evil lol