discipline?

Question

the 6 biggest roadblocks to effective discipline are :
1) confusing discipline with punishment.
2) believing that what works at one time will work all the time.
3) thinking that when you have difficulty disciplining a child,you are a bad parent.
4) believing your children should bahave a certain way at a certain time.
5) believing you must win every battle.
6) parents disagreeing in front of a child about discipline.

choose one of these and explain why it would be considered a roadblock to effective discipline.

Answer 1

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For the first I'd talk about how punishment isn't correcting a problem or teaching a lesson. The idea of discipline is to shape future behaviors and create learning experiences to draw on in the future. When a child (or an adult for that matter) can associate positive and negative consequences with their actions, they are more likely to be able to make good choices in the future. However, when a punishment doesn't match the crime, they are not learning to make choices on their own. Rather, they are just responding to their environment. Thus, grounding a child for destroying a sibbling's toy wouldn't be as effective in nature as making the child appologize and pay for the broken toy themeselves, donate a toy of their own to charity and pay for the broken toy with allowance, or work to fix the broken toy. The groundation will be remembered only during the time that a child is in their room pouting. They won't learn responsibility or what they should do as an action in the case where they destroy another's posessions.
However, you could also now argue that the second roadblock is true. You obviously wouldn't have a child pay for a toy if they say. . came stole a cookie from the cookie jar after being told not to- what works for one incident wouldn't work for another. Also, a child may need different consequences as time/situations dictate as determined by the parent or guardian at the time. There isn't one book to good parenting (although there are many published) since every situation and every child are different. We can only research, do our best, and love to the best of our ability- knowing our ultimate goal is to one day let go of the ropes for the child to live and make good decisions and choices on their own.

Answer 2

#6 When a child sees two people in charge arguing over what needs to be done, it just reinforces the negative behavior. Especially if one is a step parent. The child knows that he/she can do whatever he/she pleases and the end result will not always be punishment.