I live with my fiancee, his 11 yr old son, & his mother. Recently I was cooking I left the room briefly to get my clothes to begin ironing. I stayed away a few minutes too long and the chicken began to burn. I run into the kitchen and the chicken is burning. My in law is sitting on the sofa just watching TV. She glance up and says sorry that she didn't realize. There is no real seperation between the kitchen & living room. There is smoke all over. Then she proceeeds to make a joke about how we can have BBQ chicken for dinner. (I was cooking the day before for the next day because of a school function at our child's school). I work full time, come home and cook 2 separate meals - 1 for my fiancee, child, & me and another for my in law because she suffers from high blood pressure. I feel she did this with mal intent. Almost like she enjoyed watching me mess up...like she got off on it. Am I right or blinded by my own emotions?
2007-03-20 05:32:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't assume what she feels because you just don't know that. If we base our lifes assuming things, one sets boundaries based on our personal feelings.
2007-03-20 05:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are being a little over sensitive. Why are you cooking 2 meals? There are tons of things you can cook that are fine for someone with high blood pressure! Unless she has other special dietary needs, there is no reason to cook twice. Just less salt, less fat & it is all good. It does take about two weeks to get used to a no-salt or less-salt diet, but after you get used to eating & cooking that way you never use salt the same way again. And it is better for your whole family! Quit working so hard & work SMARTER!! Take care, good luck & best wishes.
2007-03-20 05:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that doesn't sound overbearing at all; overbearing would be if she was in the kitchen with you telling you how to cook the chicken, telling you how to raise your kids or take care of your finace'.........stop cooking two meals by the way, there is no reason why you all can't eat what you fix for her.....high blood pressure runs in the family you might as well start feeding your fiance' correctly so he doesn't get it too
2007-03-20 06:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did and does. Mother-in-law is just waiting for you to fail.
You need to have some serious discussions with you fiance' about this and try to move out asap, even if it would be hard. If the mother-in-law requires support from either of you two then this needs to be taken into consideration. If your living under her roof, its her rules no matter what in her mindset. If its yours or your fiances' house then you two can set the rules of engagement down on the table and tell it like it is or leave. This is additional stress that no one needs at this point and time.
2007-03-20 05:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she simply wasn't "situationally aware". That you take over the chores and the cooking is your choice, don't go blaming her for it. In this particular case, I feel you're over-reacting - but I agree that living with other people creates all kinds of problems for a couple. In order to aviod these issues, you really need to move away from "mom"; for as long as you're living with her, there will be tension.
2007-03-20 05:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey please...your mother in law is using her high blood pressure as a crutch, and a disease, and as a handicap. you and your man need to have your own place. period. your mother in law should be in her own place. just because she has high blood pressure doesn't mean that she can sit around and be lazy all day. you are not her maid. if you and your man cannot agree to get a place of your own then YOU get a place of your own. start putting money aside for you and you alone so you can get that.
2007-03-20 06:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, mom in law didn't mean anything. I think you're just getting to tired of her being in the same house with you and fiance.
2007-03-20 05:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
While it seems like she should have noticed, if she does not do things to insult you or let you fail all the time, I would say it was just a coincidence.
Take care,
Troy
2007-03-20 06:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your over reacting, and don't complain about your fiance's baggage, you know he has it (mother and 11yr old) keep that in mind before you say "I DO"
2007-03-20 05:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by EGOman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have no room to speak while your living under her roof...
2007-03-20 05:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by al e. c 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋