23 weeks pregnant and alone?

Question

im pregnant and my partner left me last week cos he said i m cheating which he is allways saying and i never have and i feel so depressed and he ant even bothed phoneing or nothing

Answer 1

Most likely when a guy accuses a wife or girlfriend of cheating they are going to try to get out of paying child support. Take him to court when the baby is born and have them garnish his wages. It is up to him to pay for a DNA test to prove that he is not the father.

Answer 2

Oh darling...I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hate it for you. You have so much to deal with that having to deal with him being stupid is harder for you.

Unfortunately...I am not sure exactly what to tell you. I am surprised that he would think you were cheating at 23 weeks pregnant...I did not have the energy to do anything other than work and come home, let alone cheat on my husband. I am not sure what the best thing to do here is. You need your partner in your life for help and support when this baby comes...but at the same time he is not being supportive already, so who is too say he will be at due date time.

Have you called him?? I know sometimes it is hard to be the one to bend...but unfortunaelty you have a little one with this man, and you have to be the mature one for both you and baby.

I would call him, and ask him to come over and chat. Sit down and tell him how you feel. If he cannot understand that you are not cheating...and you really need him then. I hope that if you talk and really make him understand you need him and the baby needs him, he will come around...at least a real man will!!!

Good luck darling!!! :)

Answer 3

When i had my first son i was alone in a sense of the my son father was never there or never even seen his son, I found out after i got pregnant that he was married and had a family back in the united states (at the time i live on a military base out of the country) the only thing i can tell you is if you have parents ,sister, and brothers that support you this can be your best support team. Don`t worry about the bf you have more things to think about, It will get better ,I now have 3 children and I am 21 weeks pregnant with my fourth baby, Hang in there and surround yourself with people who love you!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Hey Saucy, you need to pick yourself up because you are a glowing woman right now. You are going to have the greatest gift you can ever have. You will see just wait. All you need is you, and your baby. You don't need a man that acts like that. Hoe dare he accuse you of cheating, it's sad but it's probably him, or he doesn't want to grow up yet and doesn't want any responsibilities. Oh we'll we as women have a stronger tolerance and guess what you are the one that is going to have the greatest joy in your life. He's the one that maybe not now but later will regret it. Just enjoy your pregnancy and wait for your little bundle of joy to come because when you see, and hold your baby you will only be thinking about the baby. You will see. Keep your head up, and keep on trucking. You can do it!!!!!

Answer 5

I agree with Ky_Lotus. Do you have a support system other than this dude (family, friends, etc)? Since you have access to a computer you could probably look up if there are any type of support groups in your area.

I am not going to belittle the guy because you had/have feelings for him, obviously. But he obviously doesn't feel that way back. Take care of yourself. You can be a strong independent single mother. Why be with someone who could care less about you or his own child?

Answer 6

Well maybe he's just scared about being a Daddy so he's making an excuse!! It will get better for you. When I was pregnant with my first child, my b/f left me when I was 6 months. I found out later he was cheating on me since I was about 4 months pregnant. So he could also be the one cheating. Just take care of yourself and you will be fine.

Answer 7

Aw...take a deep breathe hun.
I was in ur shoes at 4 months, only I left due to violence. He accused me of cheating as well.
U know, its take me alot of time to realize that it wasnt me at fault. Some men are just like that. My guy dont call or check on my appts. Nothing. I am now 32 weeks. Havent talked to him in forever and I see him everyday as we work at the same facility.
U just stay focused on you and your baby. Let the rest be what it will be. U cant make him be what he should be.
My mom told me something that made sense. She said "Tonya, ur expecting him to care about this baby because u do." It was the truth. I cant understand why and how any father can turn his back on his own child. But, its not up to us to figure it out.
U take care of you and your baby. The rest will work itself out. Dont expect anything out of him, that way when he gives nothing, ur not disappointed. Took me awhile to learn that one.
U will be fine hun. Things happen for a reason and honestly, u dont need the stress of him accusing u of such things. Maybe its a blessing in disguise that he is gone.
Good luck and if u need to talk, feel free to email me.
Best wishes hun. U will make it. Trust me, I didnt think I would either, but look at me now. :)

Answer 8

He is not ready for the responsibility.Let him go. Forget about him and deal with what is more important and that is the baby . Its better this way. As early as now you know where he stands. I am so sorry for you , though. I hope things will work out. I am hoping support ( financial , family , emotional etc...) wouldn't be a problem.
I know this is difficult. If you yourself can not handle the responsibility, there's always adoption.
Again, good luck. My prayers are with you.

Answer 9

Now is the time to step back and take a look at your life and where you want it to go, after all when you have a child you are no longer living for yourself. Also take a long hard look at this man. As far as being alone you forgot about your best friend...Jesus. You are never alone. Remember, God will comfort the comfortless.

Answer 10

I'm sorry you are having a rough time. Try to keep yourself occupied and around positive influences. Take this time away from him to spend time with family and friends. Go shopping for your baby, do crafts (make a scrapbook!), eat ice cream, just keep yourself happy. I know it's hard in a time like this but if you are depressed and stressed out so is your baby. Plus, it could cause you to go into premature labor. Good luck honey, I will pray for you.

**This is probably a good thing, if he is constantly accusing you of cheating, he is probably the one who is cheating.