How do I get him to leave? He moved in with my husband and I when he was 17 and he has cost us a lot of money and pain. We now want him out. What is the best way to do it?
2007-03-20 05:18:53 · 16 answers · asked by Carolyn G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him he has 30 days to vacate the premises. You can get eviction notices from a stationary store.
2007-03-20 05:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and explain that the living arrangement is not working out and you'd like him to find a new place. Give him a month or so to make his own arrangements. If he fails to move out within that month, you may have to see about eviction proceedings in your state. Since you say he's a sociopath, I'm guessing that reasoning is not a strong point, but you could try the nice way first before evicting him or changing the locks, etc. Good luck!!!
2007-03-20 05:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him together. No warning, just walk up to him and tell him he has 15 minutes to pack up his sh*t and disappear forever. Don't waste your breath on an explanation, he should be able to figure it out. If he says OK, stand there and watch him pack (to prevent him from stealing from you). If he says NO, give him 15 seconds to pack, grab him by the skruff of the neck and back of the pants and escort out (you hold the door). Once out, hubby guards the door and you throw his belongings out the door. Once gone, change locks, secure house and package up any of the guys remaining personal effects. Your kicking him out, not robbing him.
Do it my way or do it the hard way. My way is blunt; make a decision, give him a time and execute the plan with lengthy explanation. Do it your way, and you'll give him two weeks notice and let him win you over for an addition week. When he finally does leave, you'll be missing a valuable or two (can be purchased back at a pawn shop or on Ebay for a charge). He doesn't have a place to stay? Tough sh*t. Tell him to look out for himself.
2007-03-20 05:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going through an eviction notice but that takes time and money, or you could get a restraining order against him through the court and at that point when the judge makes that ruling, he's out. I had to go that route myself. Not easy, very stress full...to say the least. Good Luck
2007-03-20 05:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time for him to leave.
Tell him to pack and take him to the nearest shelter.
Hand him $100.00 and say good bye and do not contact us.
Change all locks on the doors.....if he has access to your cars, get your keys back.....
If he won't leave call the police and have him removed.
You have no other recourse if he won't go when asked.
If he truly is sick then you have your safety to think about here.
Do not wait around or feel bad, get him out now...you are not his parents, keeper or his doctor, you can't throw your life away for a stranger....
2007-03-20 05:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply convey to him what you don't like about him and give him a time limit (one week, two weeks, etc.,) when he needs to be out. But make sure you give a reason why you want him out. Maybe he doesn't know that he's "getting on your nerves" and before he moves on he may need to self evaluate so the same thing won't happen at his next place.
2007-03-20 05:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should be commended for your taking in this sociopath and opening your home and your wallet for him.
Turn him in to the police for his despicable crimes, 5150 him, evict him, pay for three months rent and expenses for his own place or move while he is out and don't leave a forwarding address.
2007-03-20 05:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it can depend on what state you live in. In my state if the person has lived with you for so many days you have to go through the court system to have them evicted. Contact you local police to make sure. Just tell him flat out that it isn't working and he needs to find other living arrangements. Also VERY IMPORTANT, CHANGE YOUR LOCKS AFTERWARDS!!!
2007-03-20 05:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him as soon as you can..
my bf and i had the same experience with a 19 year old guy.. he moved in with us (he was living with an older friend of ours..)
we finally had enough of his stealing, his killing of our pets. (he had killed two of our rabbits, his constant lies and his stealing. (he would steal groceries and take them to his friends house to eat)he woudln't help around the house..
my guess is you need to just tell him to get out..
you and your husband will have a lot less issues and a lot less stresses once hes gone
oh yeah i should add we just left him a note on a white board telling him he had to find a new place to live as it wasn't working out and that we had already gotten in touch with his social worker
2007-03-20 05:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the locks
leave his stuff on the door step
get an eviction notice from the sheriff
get him comitted to a mental hospital
have him enlist in the Marines or Army
If you have to get him drunk first, that's ok.
2007-03-20 05:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋