When we 1st meet this girl she had bruises on her face. Come to find out it was from her boyfriend. To make things worst the boyfriend used to work for us and she took his place. So, we were friends with the boyfriend 1st and everthing seemed cool. This girl hates going home because she says he just drinks all day and fights with her when she gets home. Now today their phone is not working and she didnt come to work. Should i do something for this girl or am i sticking my nose somewhere is doesnt belong? She just turned 18 and he is 23 they moved out here with his parents and her family and friends are 600 miles away.
2007-03-20 04:57:58 · 10 answers · asked by runjohnray 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You are right to be concerned. This poor girl is away from everything she knows, so she probably feels trapped. I don't think your sticking your nose where it doesn't belong. As a matter of fact I think that as a concerned citizen it is our duty to help others who can't help themselves. So you need to do something for this girl. You could stop by her apartment to check on her. If they answer their door you don't need to get into any unneccessary details. But express your concern about not hearing from her or being able to reach her as you are her employer. Another option would be to call the cops and tell them what you told us. Express to the police of your concerns about her well being. I hope that everything is OK. If things do turn out to be OK I would make a point to talk with her. She probably has no one to talk to and could use it. I would express to her that you care for her well being and don't feel she deserves to go through what she's dealing with. Do what you can to help this girl realize the danger she's in. Don't ever feel your nosing in on her business especially when you know she's being abused. You have your chance now to speak up, you don't want to regret minding your own business. You know, if people were more aware and more concerned of their neighbor's this world would be a safer place. Good Luck & God bless!
2007-03-20 05:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an employer with a business to run, you need to be able to rely on your people and for that reason alone, it is your business if she is a no call/no show.
It is up to you as to how much you want to get involved, but at minimum, if you don't want to get involved direclty, as her employer, as she didn't call or show up for work and you are not able to contact her by phone, you should call the police and express your concerns for her well being and tell that that she has come into work before with a bruise and stated it was due to her live-in boyfriend, but not personally witnessed anything, which is to truth.
As you indicate that you were friends with the boyfriend, you could go over to the house just to follow up as you are concerned because she didn't call or show up for work and you couldn't reach her by phone, which is not like her. Tell her that you rely on her and need to know if she is going to be off so you can be sure you have adequate coverage for your business, and you were concerned she was sick and might need something and you wanted to see if you could pick it up for her on your way home after work.
Depending on where you live, there are various Women's organizations that will assist victims of domestic abuse and as she is young and not likely to have a clue, and would not be comfortable in pursuing information for herself, get a list of agencies/contacts (you could contact them for general information and would not have to give out any of your personal information) and provide them to her so she will know there is help and places to go for help to get out of a bad relationship. Most have "safe houses" where a victim of abuse can stay temporarily until she gets on her feet.
2007-03-20 12:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is go over there to their house and ask about why she didn't come to work and slowly get her out of their . Please be noisy because I was in this situation before and my boss became concerned and had me call BWA (Battered Woman's Associatetion) and they put me in a safe house and found me a job where I was but still with the company. You are a good boss if you are this concerned Please don't stop being noisey because if she told you about this problem she is seeking help. Help Her Please.
2007-03-20 12:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by reddie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nice of you to be concerned about her. She is in an abusive relationship. Encourage her go to the county courthouse and seek an order of protection from him. It will keep him away from her and throw him out of the house.
Bottom line is she needs to get out of the relationship. Help her do this.
2007-03-20 12:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do something before you regret you did not do it, it will save you many sleepless nights, I ve been in almost same situation and i wasted some hesitating, dont hesitate!
please do it, go and see if she is ok, report that to the cops by an anonymous call if you dont want to get involved but do something!
2007-03-20 12:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by superpanos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't hesitate to call the police. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
2007-03-20 12:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I woiuld do soemthing, she confided in you guys and maybe for this reason you should send someone over.
2007-03-20 12:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by shayshay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do go by her house, make sure that you take a woman with you and or a buddy and not go by yourself.
2007-03-20 12:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has the option to contact authorities and take action. If she doesn't, she has no one to blame but herself.
2007-03-20 12:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Pipe Grampa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do something! drive by call the cops ...do it
2007-03-20 12:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Robert P 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋