2007-03-20 04:48:25 · 25 answers · asked by muddylittlehotel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personal experience tells me it won't work. When I was 18, I married a man with 4 kids, all older than me. There were constant issues, and it didn't last. As a young woman, who was convinced by a much older man that marriage was a good idea, may I suggest that you grow up, act YOUR age, and let that young lady find someone who is closer in age. You are being very selfish if you don't. I know from experience, that despite the best intentions, she is going to get bored with you eventually, don't kid yourself. If you REALLY love her, kick her to the curb, for her sake as well as your own. From the way your question is worded, it sounds like you cheated on your wife, so I doubt that you have the moral fiber to not put your own needs first
2007-03-20 05:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by beebs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you a control freak? You can't handle a mature relationship with a real woman, and have to pick someone your children's age. You will ruin her in no time, she is still young naive and full of life, and needs to live what you have already lived.
You are also going through the mid-life crisis a little late don't you think?
I hope her parents are wise enough to let her know she doesn't need a daddy, she needs a husband. And you need to be a man and end this relationship, before you do too much damage to her, that is if you really love her. Which I seriously doubt, more than anything your just trying to boast your "ego".
2007-03-20 05:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when i was really young. My father married a younger woman, and let me tell you she didn't grow up. When i was 12 i went to live with my father and step mother for the first time in my life, she demanded more time with him and said i took up too much of her time. She forced my father to choose between the two of us, and he chose her. This is a sore spot to this day, and i am almost 30. My stepmother appologized 6 yrs later, saying this was wrong of her. But or relationship will never be strong, she did some very hurtful things, and i have forgiven but not forgotten. So if you new wife is mature enough then i wish you many years of happiness, but don't cut out your kids. they may be grown, but they will still need you from time to time. Let her know that you are not going to be put in a situation to choose. How long have you known her, and maybe you should talk to your children and hear their honest opinion of her. If they like her, then all should work out. If they can't get past her age, and just accept that she makes you happy, then they are asking you to choose. I hope your road is smoother than my fathers. Because they are still married but as for the children from my father's first marriage, well we don't have much of a relationship, and my father and his wife have built a very interesting life together, adopting numerous(7) children, this was of course once my step mother finally "grew up".
2007-03-20 04:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should jump in again so quickly. I think if you do you'll be making a big mistake. Take the time to process what went wrong in your previous marriage, deal with the emotional effects from the divorce and get your life back on track. With the age difference...it is an excellent possibility that you are both on different plateaus. For instance...how will you feel when she wants to have kids...go out with friends several times a week....etc. Does her lifestyle equal yours? Invest in yourself...if she is a good woman she will wait.
2007-03-20 04:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by mhchicetawn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting a divorce? Because you cheated with the 21 year old? Do you honestly think that that is a good decision if that is why? You should take time off for you. And shame on you if you were the one that ruined ur marriage.
2007-03-20 05:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by hasir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pervert
2007-03-20 04:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for validation? I highly doubt you'll find it here. I want to know two things, one how did you come to a relationship with this 21 yo and two do you realize the problems/conflicts that are going to present itself?
2007-03-20 04:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking for our comments??
Obviously because YOU'RE NOT SURE IF YOU'RE DOING THE RIGHT THING.
Since you have doubts yourself, I suggest you take a break and seriously think things out. Your ahem- subconcious is telling you you're walking down the wrong road!
But seriously, do think things out once again. From all angles- yours, hers and your kids'. My personal opinion is such marriages seldom work.
2007-03-20 06:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a shame you feel you must divorce. If your kids are normal, raised with love, then regardless of their age it will still affect them, be an example to them of their folks commitment to one another, sorry, I think it's a shame.
2007-03-20 04:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋