i'm asian women and married a caucasian man for 3 yrs. now and i'm always adjust everyday and clean the house,cook whatever he wants, massage an hour before he go to bed do everything for give him sex and still his not happy .
2007-03-20 04:46:24 · 19 answers · asked by ellahandjeff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People just don't appreciate what they have...sometimes unfortunatley not until they don't have it anymore.
2007-03-20 05:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! This is a hard one. My first response was "Ask him what are you doing to make him happy and what are you doing to make him unhappy. From you are saying, you are being a "dutiful" wife. This is perhaps because of your cultural background. Because you are married, I am hesitant to speak to boldly because I believe what God has joined together no one should do or say anything to cause conflict.
I will say, don't forget about your happiness. An old saying is,
If you can't take care of yourself. You can't take care of any one else." Also, "Men are Mars, Women are from Venus". We speak different languages, in all languages. Men are not normally expressive. "They go into a cave" shut out the world and put up smoke signals. Women, are expressive. We want to talk it out. "Inquisitive minds want to know" and know and know. Again, tell him how you feel and believe.
My hat is off to you. You are quite a woman. Give yourself a pat on the back.
2007-03-20 12:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tauheedah W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you cannot make someone else happy. Each of us must make ourselves happy. Your husband just might not be a happy person. Try talking to him and see if there is anything that he can think of that would please him or make him happy. If not, just continue with what you know pleases him and don't worry about it. It is actually his problem to fix for himself.
2007-03-20 11:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by curious74432 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Maybe you should STOP doing all those wonderful things. Sometimes it's as simple as "You don't know what you've got until it's gone". If you give, give, give then it becomes a chore to you and it loses that "just for me" charm. Your husband is taking your affection for granted. Let him miss it for ahwile.
2007-03-20 12:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't make some one happy if they are not happy with themselves. Spend some time on yourself before you start to feel resentful and used.
2007-03-20 11:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him happy, he has to do that. Just be there for him, maybe it would help if you both went to a counselor to get to the root of his unhappiness . Good luck to you both
2007-03-20 12:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make anyone happy but yourself.
u already know what he like and done it right?
if that don't work, let him be, u try to hard and might blow it.
so don't try to hard, it look like to me that he need some time alone for himself. and think you should give him some space.
you will see, giving him some space, he will missing you and will be all over you, kiss you and other stuff.
give him space.
2007-03-20 11:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some outside interests so that you do not spend so much of your energy on him.
And as already mentioned, ask him why he seems to be unhappy.
2007-03-20 11:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ma Dukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what you can do to make him happy. If that fails, suggest speaking to a therapist. It may have nothing to do with you.
2007-03-20 11:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you are doing too much, or everything is a set routine. Mix it up a bit.
2007-03-20 11:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for making your husband happy .it is his own responsibility.He is using you.what does he do to make you happy?
2007-03-20 11:52:02 · answer #11 · answered by libby c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋